[JillandMike]

Hi Everyone
We are new here so maybe this question has been addressed before.
My husband and I are in our early 30's we have been trying to have children but no luck like many of you.. (( HUGS ))

My husband has partial complex seizures (Epilespy) and I have a disability with my back down to my legs. The doctor's don't have any clue to what it is but I do get disability none the less. My husband has a very secured job even though he has seizures. He is well respected in his company (he's been there 5 years).

We are just now inquiring the information to start the adoption process. We just have the fear that no one is going to want us to have a baby or children for that matter just because we are not 2 healthy people.

My husband and I have a wonderful marriage that is filled with honesty, communication, love, respect and trust. We both want children really bad but we just don't know if this is a sign from God that we should or shouldn't have children.

Do you or do you know anyone that has adopted and been disabled or have health problems?

Please help us out. Be as honest as you want to be..

Thanks,
Jill and Mike

[tobeafamily]

I can only speak for domestic parental placement, for that is where I have experience.

In domestic parental placement adoption, what will be most important is that your physician(s) can certify that your medical conditions won't preclude your caring for a child and that both of you have a reasonable expectation of living long enough for a child to reach adulthood. That's it.

I suggest you also come up with detailed plans on what you'll do if, say, DH is alone with your child and has a siezure. Same thing with your condition. Your social worker will want to know and see it as evidence of your commitment to being parents.

Once you clear your homestudy, it will be a matter or finding prospective bparents who believe you're the best parents for their child. I've found that they care much more about who you are than what is 'wrong' with you. Who knows? Your child's biological family may also have a history of epilepsy and like that you both understand how to live as an epileptic.

Best of luck,

Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas

[Dark Fate]

Well You should be covered under the American's With Disabilities Act . As long as you have a normal life expectancy and the doctor states your able to care for a child. They cant hold your disablity against you.

I am disabled my self but I plan to adopt
so I have done alot of reading on this so if I can be of any help to you please feel free to contact me.

Thanks.

[JillandMike]

Hey
I just wanted to say thanks for the replies. I am a true worry wart and a perfectionist at that. I don't like suprises as far as negative suprises. Who Doesn't !!

Thanks and Good Luck in the future..

Take Care,
Jill and Mike

P.s. I will keep everyone posted just in case if there is someone out there with the same situation as ours.