[sherryk]

Any of you out there waiting for siblings?

There are so many foster children waiting for adoption - especially those with siblings. I know it takes more of yourself to give to a sibling group...just think, twice the amount of blessing!

I know of a family that had six children already and they were open to a sibling group of four!!! There adoption went smoothly and now they are one BIG happy family!

We had three children in our home before adopting our daughter. Everyone knows there limit...and ours was four (I'm a stay-at-home mom and my dh is a teacher.)

I think those of you waiting on siblings should be encouraged and applauded!

Blessings to you!
sherryk
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[angelical]

We are searching right now for 1 child or a sib group of 2, to add to our family of 1 bio child. Three kids is our limit, we think! (although how can there be SO MANY adobable threesomes listed!!?? )

Sharel

[sherryk]

When did you start the process?

What stage are you in right now? (besides the waiting stage...are you done with all your paperwork?)

How old is your bio child?

I can understand you wanting one or two...it is so difficult to see a sibling group of three knowing it would be too much.

Keep us posted! Let us know how to encourage you...you are in the most difficult stage of adoption!

Blessings,
sherryk
moderator

[angelical]

Hello!

We started researching agencies in May, had our first meeting with the one we chose in June, started working on our homestudy in July, and finished everything in August.

We spent September waiting for the agency to finish processing our paperwork, and we started searching the online photolistings.

We have our homestudy in on one of the kids now, and there's another 15 or so singles or sib groups that our worker is checking on now.


Our bio son is one (well, 17 months). I had many pregnancy problems - severe morning sickness, preeclampisa, HELLP Syndrome - and our son had to be delivered 12 weeks early. So, there is no way that we'd want to get pregnant again.

We had always talked about adopting... and now we think that this is the way that God is leading us. That our next child is out there waiting on us to find him/her.

It is nice having this site to come to for support and information.

Sharel

[DianeS]

We'll be waiting for a sibling group whenever my husband gets past his case of cold feet. (At least that's all I hope it is!)

We don't have any biological children and agreed we wanted a family of 3-4 kids, and agreed we only wanted to deal with DSS once, if possible. So, here's hoping for a sib group that lets us do that!

Our friends think we're nuts, but that's OK. That is... they think we're nuts when we talk about adopting that many - they think it's great when we borrow that many of their kids for a day so we can have the practice keeping them all in arm's reach at one time - no talking about us being nuts then! So I think it's just the idea of "adopting" that many that freaks them out.

We'll want older kids. Probably no older than age 8 or 9, but we know the budget will only stretch to allow one pre-school child. We just won't have the money for full-time daycare for more than one, even factoring in a subsidy. Ages 4,6,8 would be a perfect match!

And we're hoping for boys, too, or at least *mostly* boys.

So whenever we get back on the track of doing stuff with our agency, we shouldn't have to wait too long. And I agree with Angelical - the number of threesomes listed is huge!!! And most of them are boys, many of them in our age range! :-)

[angelical]

That's great, Diane. There are so many threesomes listed... it is good to hear that you might be able to get one of them. They just break my heart!

Sharel

[sherryk]

Hi there Diane and Sharel,

I wanted to tell you that my husband also had the case of cold feet...after we were matched! It was so difficult for me to be excited while my husband is being so objective about the whole thing ("Really look her over to make sure she is OK.") Sometimes, what they are going through may be something else. For example, my husband was having difficulties with his parents' response to us adopting (we didn't tell them until we were matched, so it was all of a sudden). We didn't tell them because of their response to our other bio children ("Are you sure this is a good time?") - seems ridiculous. In fact, after my husband got over his cold feet and we took home one of the most beautiful babies I ever laid eyes on, my husband mentioned that he was having a hard time because with another child in the home, it took away more of my time (less for him.) So, you never know what our men are thinking.

Happy to say, not only is my hubby TOTALLY bonded with our daughter, but my in-laws love her to pieces...and tell her so often!

Sharel, our adoption process took nine months before placement. Kind of ironic. Actually, it seemed long, but was perfect timing. It usually is when it comes right down to it. Sounds like there are alot of sibling groups your sw is checking into! Keep us posted!

Anyone else waiting on siblings?

Blessings,
sherryk
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[imbeelte]

we are adopting a sibling group of two, ages two to ten, boys or girls. these will be my first children, while my partner has already raised a son. i am adopting through the state of arizona, and i have looked at so many photolisting sites, but arizona just doesnt photolist theire children. anyone have advice for 'hidden' photolistings?? thanks.

[akcskye]

In regards to the Arizona listing...have you tried their DSS website? Sometimes they sneak them in on their private site, but not a national site.
It could be like in my state (Oklahoma)...they do not put any pictures up on the site unless it's a "last ditch effort" to place the child...in other words...all other means and resources have been exhausted...either with the scope of disabilities, age, etc.
Sad, isn't it?
It's so hard in my state wanting to see faces and names and not knowing what is truly out there for us until the homestudy is done.
We are also wanting to adopt a sibling group of 2 to 4 comprised of mostly boys.
We want to complete our family in one adoption, and have no bio-children.
We suffered 2 miscarriages in 1997, and decided we want the children to at least have a bond together so they wouldn't feel "alone" in the early stages of the adoption.
Hope it works out for everyone!
Kristi

[Dearonebaby]

Hello,
We have gone through 2 homestudies (one private and one DCS) since January 15th and now we are in for about 9 sets of siblings all races. We are so excited and just anxious to get a call telling us that we have been chosen! Right now I am on pins and needles because one of the sets is in Louisiana. Anyways, for those of you looking for caucasion sets of siblings they have mainly caucasion on Oregon's sight, through the Northwest adoption exchange.
We have put in for 2yrs to 9yrs girl boy, boy boy sets and already have their rooms done. I am so excited. Here is a queston for you all... "Are you bringing a gift when meeting them and what is it if you are?"

[missw005]

I'm also looking for siblings......
This will be my 3rd/4th adoption. My son J is 6 and I got him at 2-1/2 from NJ. My son Q is about to be 4 and I got him at 1-1/2 from OR. (obviously both special needs/waiting child adoptions)
Am now looking for single girl, 0-2, boy sibs 0-4, possibly boy/girl sibs 0-3. (My agency wants birth order adoptions only). That's ok, though, I know J couldn't stand not being the oldest. Q wouldn't care much, though.

I agree with angelical, there are SOOOOOO many cute 3-sib sets out there!!! It makes it really, really hard - but as a single parent I know my limits as well. I've had a sib set of 3 that has stayed with us for respite care (I'm a foster parent as well) and thank God it was only for a week, because it was a bit much having 5 kids under 6!!!!


As to your question,

Here is a queston for you all... "Are you bringing a gift when meeting them and what is it if you are?"

When I first met J, I brought him a stuffed tiger. He took one look at it and started shrieking and crying. Yahhhhhh........stuffed that one back in the suitcase.
When I met Q, I brought him a small stuffed helicopter that made helicopter sounds when you squeezed it. I also brought him a mini See-n-Say, which he really liked. (to this day he just loves musical or talking toys).
So...........a miss the first time around, a hit the second.

Really glad to have found this thread, there aren't too many aparents looking for siblings out there!!!

Sandy

[imbeelte]

i've checked every link i've found, and the az state site doesnt even have a link to the children. i dont realy want to just sit back and wait, i want to be able to tell them that i found them, and i want to have them here asap, why should they remain in a foster home or shelter when they can have a family to love them forever?? thanks for the links guys, i just dont think az lists their children.

[crick]

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[crick]

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[missw005]

Done! Sorry, didn't realize it was so full.