[mckenna]

i agree with cathy. you have done your part and it sounds like maybe there are other things going on at her home and maybe she is taking her frustrations out on you. you know you always hurt those you are most comfortable with. don't you wish we could all meet, too bad we live so far apart. i do plan on calling cathy so we can at least meet, we are only about 15 miles from each other. about the apron idea, steal away!


cathy, i see a johnny ace in your future (why don't you get a pet and name it johnny ace then you couldn't possible name your son that too).

[cathy102]

No more pets!!! My dog is 16 1/2 years old and after that I don't want any animals until the kids get older..Maybe I can start calling my pet name for Nick...Johnny Ace!!! NOT!!!! Johnny Ace is just so bad!!!! Please call me soon!!!

Leaving to go to the park..I will be back in a few hours...

Chow!!!

Cathy

[MomofKaden]

Stacy,
What a bummer! I am sorry to hear of that "friend" and her attitude towards you! It sounds awful and I have to say that it doesn't sound like it is your fault at all! Sounds like your friend isn't much of a friend! Sounds like she heard something that made her feel guilty or bad and so now she is avoiding the source of that conviction (you!) If I were you, I would just move on, because it sounds like you have already apologized and reached out and done the things you can to try to reconcile. At this point, I would just let it go. There is nothing more you can do. Yes, it certainly sounds like you were a very good friend to her...she is just hurt and so she is lashing out. I am sure you just touched a sore subject - how could she NOT feel bad about her husband and her daughter getting along so poorly that her daughter had to move out? If that doesn't make her feel guilty, then I don't know what would...she must feel she has let her down. She could also be dealing with post partum depression or who knows what else? Sounds like her family is in a very bad position...my worst thought is - Poor Julie! What kind of baggage will she take forward with her to adulthood that she moved out of her parents' house at 14 because her mom didn't stick up for her and let her step dad treat her like crap...that is REALLY harsh and I think as her friend, you said exactly what you should have. After all, she did ASK for advice - I don't think you did anything wrong AT ALL - somebody had to stick up for the poor girl - I am just sorry that they didn't listen to your wisdom!!!!

Did that help at all? I don't know what more to say...you sound like a very helpful true friend and if even her sister does understand her, it is pretty safe to say that she, and not you, is in the wrong. Sorry - that is a really big bummer...it isn't as though things are exactly looking peachy with you right now and the adoption stuff, so it is extra cruddy that she just bails on you when you need some good friends...she sounds kind of self absorbed and lacking compassion. I guess if that is the case, you are just as well to not deal with her! Better to put your energies into people who appreciate and reciprocate!

Gee - can you tell I like you? I am defending you to people I don't know!!! ha!

[mckenna]

ok cathy, will you be home tonight, it is bath night at our house and the baby goes to bed around 6:30 then my son goes to bed around 8, can i call after that?

[MomofKaden]

Cathy - the Johnny Ace bit is hilarious - sounds like a very fun hubby you have there! But I have to agree with you - it is pretty bad! John or Jonathan are fine, but seriously, Johnny Ace? He has to be kidding!!! That could only work if you want him to grow up to be a t.v. detective or an extreme sports star or something...LOL! Maybe a DJ or newsman? "Until tomorrow, this is Johnny Ace, and that is the news"

McKenna - great idea with the aprons -you are more adventurous than me! I would smear them up to kingdom come - I can't even get it right on paper!!! It would be a lot easier if he could step on them on the floor, but he is a little small yet to be very cooperative.

Marie - that is great about Justin's hair! Sounds like a neat kid.

[melon161]

Thanks for reading my whole big post everybody. I hope I didn't make it sound like I was perfect because I'm not by all means. Some of this is my fault. I agree with you guys that there's nothing I can do now but I feel so horrible. Yesterday was the first time in about 4 weeks that I contacted her cause she had said she needed time to think. I thought though when she heard about the rough time I was having she would at least phone.

I want to just forget it but I feel like I need closure, shouldn't she at least have the nerve to dump me face to face, we're not in grade school anymore! Ha Ha Ha (At least I can make jokes)!

Anyway, thanks for the advice.

Cathy, I'm still laughing about "Johnny Ace" That's something I'd do to Stacey! LOL LOL LOL

Hugs,

[cathy102]

I just got a email from our Agency!!! The baby is due 12/15/03..That is closer than what we thought!!! I hope H goes early so we won't miss Xmas with Lexi...That means the baby will probably be here in less than 8 weeks...Dec 15th is 7 weeks and 5 days!!! Holy smokes!!!! I guess I do need to get some boy stuff now!!!

And I talked to Nick about that Johnny Ace name...He said that we wouldn't call him Johnny but Jonathan and still likes Ace as a middle name..I told him I didn't want to talk about it anymore today..hehe!!! Maybe that will give him time to think how stupid that name really was!!!

I need to clean bottles..Be back later this evening..

Cathy

PS..Mckenna..You can call me after 8:00..Lexi goes down between 8-9 PM..The phone ringing never bothers her!! She is used to noise around the house!!

[melon161]

Oh, poor Cathy. He gets to name him too doesn't he. I like Johnathan but I don't know about Ace. Ha Ha Ha At least it'd be different and very unique!

You are getting close, you'd better get down to work missy! LOL

I just know everything will work out and you'll have the baby home for christmas with Lexi.

Hugs,

[melon161]

I was in the scrapbook store today (I know, I'm addicted) and I overheard a lady talking about how her and her husband were asked by someone they knew if they would adopt her baby. She told the b-mom that she'd only adopt it if it was a girl. I wanted to go over and say, well, if it's a boy, here's my number. I felt sorry for myself because I wish someone would ask me to adopt there baby and I wouldn't care what gender it was.

I know, it's their right to choose, I just wanted to say that I'd take it.

Maybe I'll just walk around downtown yelling that I want to adopt and eventually somebody will approach me. LOL (Ya, probably the cops, to take me too jail and then the loonie bin)! Ha Ha Ha

[NanaMarie]

Stacy .. I'm with everybody else .. I think its time for you to move on from this friendship. It sounds like it was pretty one-sided anyway. You say you need closure .. which I understand ... but you can only get the door slammed in your face so many times. Like Jess said their are other issues involved here you are just the one that is being blamed at present. Step back .. and wait for her to call you. If she doesn't call then she really wasn't much of a friend in the first place. I know you have lots of family and friends close by but if you ever need another to sound off at .. feel free to call me.

Wow Cathy that is soon .. not quite 8 weeks away and if she has baby early .. oh double WOW!! My son is called Jonathon but now that he is an adult his friends call him Johnny .. I hate it but he seems to like it .. so maybe Nick is right and it will turn out to be Johnny in the future. LOL

McKenna I love your idea with the aprons, in case I didn't say that earlier. What special gifts they will be .. wish I was more creative to think of things like that.

Jess ... yes Justin is a great kid a bit of a handful sometimes when he is healthy (which I hope will be in the not too distant future).

Well gotta go dish up supper .. kids never did nap properly today .. just short 15 minute cat naps both morning and afternoon .. oh well got to the grocery store and picked up a few things and walked a bit outside in the wind .. at least the sun is shining.

I'm off to work tonight (7 - 7 shift) so if you don't hear from me tomorrow .. don't worry I'm just trying to sleep if the little ones let me that is. Thank goodness that is my only shift this week.

Hugs to you all.

Marie

[NanaMarie]

Stacy .. I'm so sorry you had to hear them talking like that. Although I suppose yelling would ease your frustration some .. I would hate to see you in jail or the loonie bin ... maybe you need to go home and relax in a hot bubble bath .. light some candles in the bathroom and forget about everything for 30 minutes. Will be keeping you in my prayers tonight .. and I do a lot of praying when I'm working as its pretty quiet and no computer to play on.

HUGS Marie

[mckenna]

marie- 7-7, how do you do it? i need my sleep. where do you work?


stacy- sorry to hear about the scrap book store experience, i just know the right baby is out there for you. have you heard anymore from your friend with the lamaze class? i am so jealous of all your scrap booking. i am goint to set up an area in the baby's room for me to scrap book! the problem is, once i get all the stuff out, i get 1 page done and then have to clean up. if i could leave the stuff out maybe i would stay up on things. the last page i did in my son's scrap book was from easter and i haven't even started the baby's. i did get her a memory box. i buy those paper mache boxes and decorate the outside with pictures of each foster kid and then keep things in there, like the outfit they wore when i got them, cards or art work they make at school ect. then i give it to thier bparents when they are returned. i have all the stuff saved for hers, i just have to put it together, so that is my project for this weekend. and fixing my son's halloween costume. i will have to try to post a picture of it on this thread. in a couple of years, maybe johnny ace can borrow it! ha ha.

have a good night!

[melon161]

Oh Mckenna, you make me laugh. I think Johnny Ace would love to borrow your halloween cosutme. LMAO!!! Thanks for the kind words. I'm alright it's just frustrating but I'll get over it. I haven't heard from Lynda yet about the young girl in pre-natal but I e-mailed her yesterday so maybe I'll hear somethng soon.

Marie, A nice hot bath sounds like a good idea, I don't think jail has those. LOL

Thanks Guys,

[cathy102]

Stacy...I can understand being upset when you heard that women say that she would take the baby if it was a girl. We have never wanted a certain sex in a baby. We would of took a boy or girl, but I'm glad that Johnny Ace will be a boy!!hehe!! NOT!!!! I do like the name Jonathan but not Johnny. I just don't know why. Your baby will find you soon, I just know it!!!

Marie..I would just die if Lexi only took a 15 minute cat nap..She is such a great sleeper, thank god!! Enjoy work. Man, 7-7 is a long day!!! Who watches the kids when you get home in the morning??

Mckenna...That is so great that you do those projects for your foster kids..But I don't think Johhny Ace wants that costume..hehe!!! J/K!!! But really, that name is so not for me!!! Hope you call tonight..Looking forward to it!!! Can't wait to have lunch sometime soon!!!

Jess...Have a great night..

Time to get Lexi some dinner..

Be back,

Cathy (Johnny Ace's amom soon) NOT!!!! hehehe!!!

[melon161]

Thanks Cathy. I'm sorry but I can't stop laughing about the Johnny Ace name. It cracks me up! LOL

Mckenna, I forgot to say that I think it's so cool that you keep all that stuff for them, way to go! Thanks for reminding me Cathy.