[Bio-adop mom]

We are in the beginning stages of adopting a toddler boy from Russia. We have 2 bio daughters, ages 10 & 6, for whom I am a very busy stay-at-home mom--involved in their schools & activities.

Yesterday I got home from taking them to a b-day party to find my first enormous stack of papers to fill out from the agency. Medical forms, homestudy forms, stuff about travel, INS, etc--overwhelming. I found myself thinking "what the heck did I get myself into?" My life is full and happy now--this is too much!

We have been trying to conceive again for probably close to 4 yrs, so I tell myself...I was ready to get pregnant, why I am suddenly not feeling ready to adopt? I want the little guy here, but this just seems so scary.

Anybody go through similar feelings, and still end up knowing they did the right thing?

[MomTo1]

bio-adopt mom...

Your post makes me smile. To me giving birth, carrying a child, stetch marks, enlarged breasts, nausa, vomiting, doctor visits, ultrasounds, hospital visits, possibly c-section, recoup period, stiches, etc.... sound like the hard road to me.

When you begin the adoption process it can be very scarey. You do have alot of paperwork to go through. Don't let that intimadate . Just take it one step at a time with the piece of paper on the top, there is no rush. Just like a pregnancy it all takes time.

I remember when I first saw the stack of paperwork for our domestic adoption I was overwhelmed. I wanted this more then anything though so everything else just took second place. We didn't rush through the process but took it as it came. A piece of paper work at a time.

Adoption is not a quick process, especially International adoption. It is totally different then domestic adoption. Be parpared for a lengthy journey filled with lots of emotions. In the end, you will be giving a home to a child that needs one and a family to a child that does not have one. The change you will make in that child's life will be profound and the changes that child will bring into your life will be life transforming.

Good luck on your journey. Bye