[niece]

I am a 27 yr old woman who fell in love with a man who happens to be 16 yrs older than I am. I am unable to have children, and I have turned to adoption to complete my family. I have done a lot of research into the adoption. I have tried to get different agencies to work with us but with the age difference I have been told that birthparents really are not comfortable with it. What should I do?

[tobeafamily]

I'm 36 and DH is 47. Age was not an issue at all with DS' birthfamily. DH is actually 2 years older than bgrandad and 1 year younger than bgrandma. We all think is kinda funny. DS' birthmom chose us because we have the same sense of humor, love Halloween as much as she does, and DH was 'a 12 year old trapped in an adult body' as she puts it.

Yes, there will be some birthfamilies who will not choose you because of the age difference, there will also be those who don't care or who may actually celebrate it. I think the best thing for you to do is to be yourselves and let those families considering you as adoptive parents see how much you love each other and how strong your relationship is.

HTH,

Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas 4/24/02

[niece]

Thank you so much.....I needed to hear that.
Best Wishes
NIECE

[sherryk]

There are many couples out there who have a big age difference between spouses.

There are also birthmothers who would be happy to place a child in a home such as yours. Birthmothers choose adoptive couples for many reasons. You just never know! Don't lose heart - or your dream!

Blessings to you,
sherryk
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