[DLJ]

Hey everyone! Any updates on your adoption journey? None here and we're so frustrated!!!

[stynx9000]

My wife and I are sort of stuck in the "waiting to wait to adopt" phase - we're in the process of raising money so we can begin the adoption process.

We'd like to have at least half of the necessary funds in the bank before we start. It's a long road. Even those 7 day auctions on eBay seem to be taking forever!

We're trying to spend a lot of time together, and doing things to take our minds off of the wait, but it can get hard, as we don't want to spend the money we're saving !

So, a lot of book reading, watching movies that we own, going for walks, visiting friends and the like.

Good luck on your journey! You're not alone.

Ben

[Tam]

Belive me I know how frustrating and disheartening the wait can be. I waited four long years from putting in my application, to having my son placed with us.

Please don't give up hope. I was very close to cancelling my application due to the undue stress, and heartache I was putting myself through, when suddenly out of the blue my sw called with a match.

My thoughts and prayers are with you
Tam

PS
Ben have you had your homestudy done yet? That can take quite some time. It might be wise to start that while you are saving up the much needed funds.

[DLJ]

Thanks for the encouragement! We're definitely sticking with it to the end. We are adopting through the state and are hoping to be matched with four sisters soon. I just can't believe how long this takes!

Ben, are you and your wife wanting to adopt an infant? If not and you are open to older children (toddlers and above) you may want to check out your state's foster children. That's what we're doing and it doesn't cost anything. Just a thought.

Hope everyone has a great day!

P.S. Ben, how did you get that cute critter on your post?

[alpacamom]

being matched with your older children doesn't get them in your house real fast either. i have 2 girls, 11 and 12, that i am in the process of adopting. the best i have right now is weekend visits. if i wait for the adoption consent, it will be another 3 months before they can finally move into my house. i have applied for a foster home license to get them moved sooner, but am having a hard time waiting for that to happen too. i don't remember being this anxious when i was pregnant with my 3 bios. maybe it's because i know they will have some problems, and this bouncing back and forth isn't helping them at all.

oh well, one day at a time . . .

[goofie875]

Hello, We are in the waiting game as well. Our paperwork was turned a little over a month ago and just waiting for the call to come in saying we have been matched.

[DLJ]

are firm believers in things working out for the best. But, I have to admit I'm getting extremely frustrated with the wait. We originally were hoping the girls could be in our home before school started again so they wouldn't have to change. Obviously that didn't happen. Not to mention they are in two separate homes right now. I hate that!! They deserve to be in one permanent loving home.

Alpacamom, it's hard not bringing them home, isn't it?

Well, here's hoping we all get good news soon!!

Thanks for all the replies.

Have a great rest of the week,
Donna

[Linny]

Somehow I thought it would be easier this time because we have a little one in the home again. We are older. We have adopted many times, and even have grown kids; but I find that waiting for the next baby (and probably the last) isn't much easier than waiting for the first!!!!!
I feel somewhat guilty for being anxious. I am crazy about the baby we have now. She is so wonderful and fun to have; But, we are wanting to 'complete' the family and feel that the next wee one will be the last.
Long ago I grew so weary of having questionaires and sw's involved with our family. We have had rotten workers and great ones; but I guess I see it as 'at last we can be 'normal'?
However, I know the Lord has His own timing and the right baby will come when the timing is right!
Here's to us all 'holding our breath, laughing out loud, and finding children in our homes!

Linny

[Peggy]

Alpaca Mom

The visits are part of the process. I know it is hard to wait. You want them in your house NOW, and don't like sharing.(feelings I had). But moving children to quickly can also cause problems. Enjoy the visits, it is a time to get to know the kids without being in charge.

[alpacamom]

i guess part of the anxiety is that the foster home the girls are in want them out as soon as possible, and it appears her treatment of them shows that. she never has liked one of the girls, and since they won't be split, they decided not to adopt either girl. sundays are always a nightmare trying to get them to go back to the foster home. at least they are in school which probably helps. my adoption worker wants them moved too, but with the mess the st of mi is in right now, nothing is moving quickly and there is no one around to do the job. the licensing worker quit and no one else knows how to do it. early retirements are killing providing any type of service for anything. adoption consents have slowed down to a snail's pace. and i work for this system!!!!

at least i do get them on weekends. i can count my blessings for that. i empathize with all of you waiting for that final move. i have to confide that i am afraid that the girls will be able to move thursday 9/26 - the one year anniversary of my husband's passing. i had planned on taking that day for myself and know i will really need to be alone.

[Peggy]

My daughter moved in on the anniversary of my father's death. I see it as his way of giving his blessing. It is a shame about the fostermom, that does complicate things. Maybe you can get a longer visit during a school break?

[Mellie]

Just attended our second parenting class, really liking the two instructors, they are also the ones who do the home studies. I am happy we ended up in this class. We are friends with another couple in the other class they are running and their class sounds really stiff. Have just started talking to SW's about what we are looking for etc. Will try to keep this updated

M

BTW doing State Adoption, which means all special needs.

[alpacamom]

welllll, still have weekend visits with my girls, but yesterday the youngest (11) fell out of the hay loft at the foster home and broke both bones in her leg. she won't make it this weekend. i will have the older girl (12) so looking forward to some of that quality time with her. my fh licensing has now been sent to another county to complete. the county i was going through i now work for because of state reorganization so had to send the licensing somewhere else. at least my adoption is safe since that has been approved by the worker before the reorg. with any luck, maybe next week??????????????????