[goofie875]

Hello Everyone!

I am new here and this is the first time posting here. my husband and I have been through the fertility treatment with no success so we decided to start the adoption route. We flew through the homestudy with no problems. We began the paperwork and home visits with the social worker in April and done the end of June. We did the "dear birthmother letter" and photo album with ease. Now we are waiting for the call. We realize that is could take some time but is anyone else to this point of waiting. If so what are you doing to help ease the waiting game?

Is there anyone from the State of Maryland around these boards, by chance?

Thank you!
Kelli

[slikmom]

During the sometimes depressing waiting periods, I did a few things. I worked on our lifebook. We were looking for a sibling group and I wanted a hands-on way to introduce us to the children. I used lots of colorful pictures, and included places where they could write/color about themselves. This would not of course apply to you if you are looking for an infant... But some of the other things I did might be more helpful.
I kept a journal which I intend to share with them when they are adults. It was a great way for me to vent my thoughts and feelings, and I will be able to show thwm how much I loved them before I knew them.
Also, I tried to keep myself busy. However much adoption was on the tip of our tongues with everybody.... try to keep yourself busy with hobbies, or something.... The waiting can drive you crazy... lol
Heather
slikmom@yahoo.com

[JeanDaveMatt]

Your life is about to change drastically and forever. In the meantime, while you are waiting, have fun! See as many movies as possible, go to that new restaurant that you wanted to try or sneak away for that getaway at the spur of the moment. These are things that will be difficult to do once you are parents so enjoy this time now, you won't be sorry!

[cathy102]

Hi Kelli,

I know what it is like to wait. We got matched with our birthmom at 9.5 months and got Lexi 6 weeks later. The waiting part is the hardest time to deal with. Try and keep busy...

Keeping a journal is a great idea. Make sure you go out with your Hubby and enjoy your time together...

I will pray that your child finds you soon...

Cathy (Mommy to Lexi)

[savannah310]

How exciting! I know exactly how you felt as I had a really hard time concentrating on anything until I got that phone call.

Best thing you can do, like everyone says, is try to stay busy. I know it sounds cliche and it's tough, but do whatever you can to keep your mind on other things as best you can! How long have you been waiting and how long did your agency say it would take? Are they showing your profiles first or how is the agency handling the matching??

Deb

[MrsSmith]

Hey there!

We're in the same exact boat, Kelli. We too are now waiting for the phone to ring. We have our "baby phone" forwarded to my cell phone while we're working/at church/wherever that isn't home, and this is making me doubly jumpy - now I check my purse any time I hear any cell phone ring! I almost felt better when there still were things to do, because then I was a lot busier. I find myself online a lot, reading posts and looking at adoption sites, and I wish I could get the chat software to work on a night when there's actually someone on to chat with!

Well, I do have something to keep me busy for the next few weeks - I'm going to be on Jeopardy and we fly to California in November. So at least I can try to busy my mind with studying for Jeopardy... lol! But I think a journal is a great idea - I might try that too.

Anyhow, if anyone ever wants an e-pal, just drop me a line! MrsSmith@mightywebsmiths.com

Take care, good luck, and hope the waiting goes swiftly -

Heather
---
Adoptee/Hope to soon be an adoptive parent

[khnath]

Heather,
Good Luck with Jeopardy! That is really exciting. We are about to join the waiting game very soon. We are going the through the adoption process for a second time, and this time around we have decided to go international. Our dossier is almost complete, and once that is turned in our wait will begin. Most likely in a couple of weeks.

We decided to go internationally, because this will most likely be our last adoption and we really would like a little girl. We adopted our son over 3 years ago. He was just 2 weeks when we got "the phone call" and was 4 weeks when we brought him home. He is now a very active, loving. charismatic 3 yr. old. The wait for girls is longer, but we couldn't pass on the opportunity to have both a boy and a girl.

Enjoy your time now, as was previously noted by someone else. We knew a baby would change our lives, but we had no idea how one little baby could turn our world completely upside down. And of course, we wouldn't change any of it!

[Belljo]

Originally Posted by goofie875

Hello Everyone!

I am new here and this is the first time posting here. my husband and I have been through the fertility treatment with no success so we decided to start the adoption route. We flew through the homestudy with no problems. We began the paperwork and home visits with the social worker in April and done the end of June. We did the "dear birthmother letter" and photo album with ease. Now we are waiting for the call. We realize that is could take some time but is anyone else to this point of waiting. If so what are you doing to help ease the waiting game?

Is there anyone from the State of Maryland around these boards, by chance?

Thank you!
Kelli

I am trying to adopt a special needs child. The waiting seems like an eternity.He has had a "new crisis" and the have to stabalize him. The Mom in me wants to go and rescue him, but I know he has to be prepared to be adopted.

BJ Jenkins

[Belljo]

Originally Posted by goofie875

Hello Everyone!

I am new here and this is the first time posting here. my husband and I have been through the fertility treatment with no success so we decided to start the adoption route. We flew through the homestudy with no problems. We began the paperwork and home visits with the social worker in April and done the end of June. We did the "dear birthmother letter" and photo album with ease. Now we are waiting for the call. We realize that is could take some time but is anyone else to this point of waiting. If so what are you doing to help ease the waiting game?

Is there anyone from the State of Maryland around these boards, by chance?

Thank you!
Kelli

P.S. Iive in P.G. County Maryland


BJ Jenkins

[MommyBear]

We'll be officially waiting in less than a month! We're done with paperwork and just need to do our homestudy interviews. As far as our waiting, I have a ton of things planned to work on while we wait - some child related, some bettering myself, and some making the most of the time I have left alone with my husband!!

Oh, and I live in Montgomery County, MD!

[riverview]

Carroll County, MD

[StorkWatcher]

Kelli -Hi! Welcome to the boards!

I'm not in MD, but have been through the waiting game. Here are some recommendations:

1-buddy up w/ someone who is also waiting. We became friends w/ a couple working w/ the same agency. It made a HUGE difference! We called each other, vented our frustrations, met for dinner, and had people to talk to that understood what we were going through. We ended up adopting w/in two months of each other, so now we have play dates!

2-READ UP. I wish I'd read my What to Expect the First Year book more beforehand! Read about anything you think you might do: baby names, making baby food, child development, raising the adopted child. BUY AND READ THE HAPPIEST BABY ON THE BLOCK. It may save your life after the babe comes home to you!

3-Some people say decorate the nursery, some don't . We did the painting and had the essential furniture, then save the detailed decorating for afterward. This way, I didn't stress about not having much ready. I also bought a few basic clothing items, 1 bottle, and a few diaper supplies, car seat.

4 - sign up online for diaper coupons, baby food coupons, and formula coupons NOW.

5-I registered at baby stores. It made me feel that it was all that more real! I knew I was an expectant mother, too and deserved the same fun people who were pregnant got to have! We saved our baby showers until after the baby was born.

Try to stay busy. Some days are hard than others. If you're down or frustrated, come visit these boards! We'll help console you!

[Belljo]

Thank You, I am adopting a 8 year old special needs child, I have already raise 3 biological daughters 25, 23, and 18. So no more babies for me, but thanks for the wonderful suggestions


BJ Jenkins

[aronya]

To be honest there aren't alot of people in MD on the forum. We were pretty active up until November of this last year and then life of course got hectic and then we moved to Frederick.

We adopted through an out of state agency, while living in Montgomery county. We will be starting again in February, but we are now in Frederick, so we might have some new challenges.