[ellieroze]

I have a 13 year old son that needs a new home. Please contact me directly for more information. Our situation is extremely desperate. My web site below has more details.

Laura M. Porras
ellieroze@ywave.com
http://www.geocities.com/ellieroze69/Silentnomore.html

[lucyjoy]

I read your story. Does he qualify for any type of SSI or assistance that would help pay for live in residential for sex offenders?

The threat you got from CPS is typical, but endangering 3 children to place one doesn't seem legal. Did you check with a lawyer to see if your state will really enforce this?

[ellieroze]

We have checked in to it. Not only will they do it, but they will get paid for it.

I don't know if he qualifies for any assistance or not.

[Linny]

Laura:
I have read your site and have emailed you. Our family has been in a somewhat similar situation. And yes, I know that the state will very much take out the 'well children' and place with you the 'ill child'. It has been done in my state....and it is threatened more and more because adoptive parents are finding that they did not receive all the legal info they were supposed to previous to adoption. Therefore, some of these children are quite violent and dangerous to the rest of their family. Our state chooses to 'hide its head in the sand'....instead of admitting their mistake of trying to place a child at all costs. Our state was known as the 'leader' in older child adoptions....but according to a local adoption therapist.....years later, it was also leading the country for the most 'disupted adoptions'. I'm sorry, but it's my belief that there are just some kids who cannot be 'helped' unless they want to help themselves.


Sincerely,

Linny

[ellieroze]

Thank you both for responding. I will contact you individually for more information. Please keep the ideas coming. We need all the help we can get.

Laura

[lucyjoy]

CPS always threatens to take the healthy kids, but they have to explain to a judge why they did. They can't tell a judge they took the children because you refused to take their rapist back. They can charge you with abandonment and they will and they can and will charge you support. I don't believe they'd take your kids.

What do his doctors feel his chances of recovering with treetment are? Can you and your ex tag team parent while he gets treetment and keep the kids apart? What about using alarms? Has he been treeted in lock up?

I'm sure I'll get plenty of bashing, but this 13 year old is also a child who is repeating abuse he received within your family. Whose to say he can't be rehabilitated? Has he been evaluated?

Have your other children been seen by a therapist who would provide a statement that it would be harmful for them to live with your 13 year old and that removing them from your care would do irrepairable harm?

[ellieroze]

Don't worry, I won't bash you. My 13 year old, legally can't be around children 5 years or younger than him, which means 9 and below once he gets out. That means that he can't return to either of our houses. To solve this problem they would remove the other children. Obviously you haven't heard the horror stories being lived daily by people from CPS. It is a nightmare that I don't want to experience.

I don't know if he is treatable. One doctor said no, others say give the kid a chance. I have three other boys to raise and protect. I love my son, always have and always will. He can't come back here because I need to protect my other children.

If you think for one minute that the state wouldn't just uproot my other children, think again. This kind of injustice happens all the time. Why do you think the CPS organizations all over the country have such high budgets. They get paid to take children from their natural families and place them in foster care. I could introduce you to a hundred other people that are fighting to get their kids back. Hopefully I haven't signed my own warrent by telling you this.

I just want to find a good home for my son instead of just telling the state he is their responsibility. I don't want him floating from one foster home to another for the next four years. I want him to have a fighting chance while my other boys are raised by me.