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Originally Posted By Patty

I have 3 children by my ex-husband,a 13 yo daughter,12 yo son and a 9 yo daughter.I was married in July '95 to a wonderful man who is a wonderful stepdad.Over the past 7 years my 13 yo has been becoming more resentful of her bio-dad.He hardly sees the kids,only when they go visit their grandmother(his mother)and that is not very often.VERY RARELY does he call and he has not paid child support for 7 years!My daughter has spoken to him about how she feels several times,he calls or visits once or twice after and then he stops.It's kind of like a cycle. When he does see them my daughter is unhappy with his actions and behavior towards them.Even my other 2 children are beginning to resent him and don't want to see him anymore.When he DOES see them all 3 of the children are complaining and upset that he shows very obvious favoritism towards my 13 yo.

My 13 yo this past year has started asking if my husband(her stepdad)can adopt her.She has even gone as far as writing a paper in one of her classes about her least favorite relative - her dad,and why he is her least favorite.I have just recently started asking him to pay support and each time(twice)he makes excuses about bills,says he'll try and send some money and then I never receive any.

I,along with my children,are tired of these games.My husband and I are seriously thinking of looking into adoption,although my daughter had mentioned it to her dad a few months ago about how she wants to be adopted and he said he would fight it!

I really want to know if my husband has a good chance at adopting my children. Thanks!

Patty