[mjc0127]

I am currently in a long distance relationship. I live in Chicago and my girlfriend lives in Nebraska. Her son is 1 year and 8 months old. Her first regret is that she gave the baby the fathers last name. She also has no insurance so the baby is under the fathers insurance. The father has not seen the baby in the past 5 months and even when he has seen him he has left him with his mother and then gone out drinking with his friends. I plan on marrying my girlfriend. After doing research and reading the forums I am going to do this a lot faster than what I originally planned. Possibly next month now. I want my girlfriend(soon to be wife) to come live with me in Chicago. After the 1 year of marriage I am going to want to adopt the baby. I am worried about getting the father to consent to the adoption. I am also worried about taking the baby out of Nebraska. The father would never know but I want to make sure there aren't any consequences we would have to face later. We do not want the father to be a part of the babies life at all. He is 34 and still acts like he is 21 or even 18. He has 2 other children with 2 other women. We do not trust him with the baby and he doesn't seem to really care about the baby. I am worried he will not consent to the adoption out of spite towards the mother. Can anyone please give any advise on all of this? I would like to get things started as soon as possible. I have scheduled a meeting with a lawyer but any advice I can get from here would be much appreciated! Thanks!