[ajay_98]

about 7 yrs ago my husband adopted my son (@ the time he was 6 years old) via a step-parent adoption. The biological father rights were voluntarily terminated & he signed off and no longer paid child support which was his main motivation. At the time I was fine with it as I was thinking of the best interest of the child & $$ was not a priority and still isn’t...it also was not a good situation for a child…but, I want to find out opinions on if the biological parents should still be held responsible for their actions...by requiring the Biological parent to pay into a "trust" in the childs name not equal to the amount of child support, but an amount that can build up over time. This "trust" would not be directly managed by the parents, but there would be a court order, so that it would affect the biological parents credit, etc., if they were avoiding it...and a reminder for them...that they can't just walk away...I realize this is the "land of the free - home of the brave," but that does not go without some kind of cost...the kids are paying for it in one way or another...maybe I am completly wrong on this...but would like some input....

[Grace1972]

No, I don't think there should be any other responsibility. He would have NO RIGHTS to the children what so ever. I would NOT want anything from him, and would just be thankful that I can offer my child a safe, and secure home, and be happy that the adoption was a success. I'm also a child that was adopted by my step father and happy that I was.

[concerned grandma]

I dont think that biological parents should be responsible for anything after signing over all rights to child. If they were then it would only be fair that they still be apart of that childs life. It sounds like in my opinion that your saying they should still have to pay financially but not have rights to be apart of the childs life in any other way. I think the parents that adopt are the true parents and that if you were biological parent no one except you would have a trust set up for your child so you shouldnt exspect someone who signed away rights to do it. I,d dreather he or she be out of their life totally and leave it at that. I,m sorry if I misunderstood what you were asking but I just think it would open up a new can of worms and have biological parents thinking because I pay for this kid I,m still their parent.

[#2Momto3]

I agree with Grandma.

Adoption, after all, makes the new parent the only mom or dad.

Wouldn't it be rather greedy to want money from someone whose rights were terminated? If the other parent was sufficient financially, than perhaps the adoption shouldn't have taken place?

It sounds as though you are having second thoughts about the adoption. You may not want to bring this idea up to DH, as if it were me, I would be really hurt.

IMHO

[stepadoptionblog]

NOPE. Done is done, once the rights are terminated contested or not, ties are severed. You cannot hold the bp responsible for the child any longer.

Stepparent Adoption Blog

[JPDakota]

Would it be "nice" for the severed parent to pay into a trust so the child can go to college or something? Well, maybe, but not in my world. Termination is it, the final deal, no rights and no responsibilities. Can't have it both ways.

[zxczxcasdasd]

If you want your child to have a trust, you have to create it and build it. And your husband too if he's the father now. You can do it. There are lots of ways to put away even a little for your child's future. You don't need someone else to do it. Certainly not someone who's not responsible for the child anymore, when there are two legal parents who are responsible.