[Zulaya]

Is there anyone out there who has done a NE stepparent adoption? I could really use some help or advice from someone who's been there, done that!!

[Step2Adopt]

I will be starting a step parent adoption soon. Maybe we could help each other. I dont know how far you are into yours.

[Zulaya]

Thanks for your reply! Sorry I didn't get back here sooner, I guess I stopped looking back after a while.

We just finished the adoptions. It's official, my husband is now dad! I barely dared update the site because of this paranoid thought I had that biodad would find it and do something to screw it up. Right up to the moment we left the courthouse, I kept thinking he was going to show up and cause some kind of complication or revoke his consent.

My husband and I are both so thrilled...but I had a very odd reaction right after I figured out that biodad really hadn't shown up and really didn't do anything and now my husband really is dad. It was...I don't know exactly, but it was an awful lot like the car ride to the Church for our wedding. If I had to put it into words, it was "Oh my God, I've just done the most undoable thing in my entire life!" I mean, you can get a divorce, but you can't undo an adoption. Not that I want to!!! My husband is a great guy and a wonderful dad to all 3 of our kids. Neither of us has had second thoughts about this, but nonetheless, I had that reaction. It was very odd. I had to wonder if I'm some kind of wierdo, or if other people had this sort of thing? Everyone talks about wedding day jitters and cold feet and all that stuff, so I guess it makes sense that there could be the same thing about the most wanted adoptions. Am I babbling?

Anyway, I'll be thrilled to give you any support or help I can. Sorry I didn't reply sooner.

--Zulaya