[crzydayz]

If anyone could respond I would greatly appreciate it....court date for termination is set next week and bio parents want to meet with us to talk about surrendering if we will do an open adoption. The thing is my husband and I have decided not to adopt and we have told the case worker this and she is not telling the bio parents so they want to know why we will not meet with them and said they will only surrender if we are willing to do an open adoption. Is it right that they are not telling the bio parents that we are not adopting. The dad gave me his number, should I call and tell them....the case worker told them we are not interested in open adoption, which is false, if we were to adopt we would do it, and the case aid had told them we would, before we had decided to back out. HELP ME PLEASE...I don't feel these parents are being told the truth.

[mrsred]

Wow, what a bad situation! I am afraid if you call the father directly you will be burning bridges if you want to continue fostering.
It sounds to me like it is time for some straight talk with the case worker. Call her and tell her that you have no intention of adopting this child, and you feel that her lack of honesty with the birth parents is extremely troubling. Tell her you expect her to let the parents know that you will not be adopting. If she doesn't you have two or three options of recourse. The first would be to tell the birth parents yourself. The third would be to contact the childs Guardian ad litem or CASA if the child has one. The final, and what I would probably do is to let the case worker know that if she doesn't come clean you will need to call her supervisor. Flat out lying to the birth parents is just bad practice. If the birth parents were to relinquish under false pretense, then word got out it would give the birth parents grounds for an appeal. Even if it didn't reverse the termination, it could delay the finalization of adoption for whomever does end up adopting.

[jackiesbooks]

It should come out in court that was part of the judge's decision to terminate.