[zebramom]

I am in desperate need of someone to do therapeutic respite for my 13 year old son.

In the last 10 days he has gouged a hole in my tire, scratched my car, run away several times, kicked another hole in his wall, smashed dishes and plates, in absolutely defiant, has called me every name you can possibly think of, has punched me in the face, and the list goes on.

We are in crisis mode, and social services does not reply to any of my e-mails. He was discharged from an RTC with no safety plan, and no instructions to us what we should do when he escalates.

He is perfectly compliant everywhere else, and is extremely charming and manipulative.

I don't know where to turn. I need help before our family implodes.

[mrsred]

The last time my foster-adopt daughter was in a rage and "beating up" her bedroom - kicking walls, banging bed into wall, etc I called her therapist. Therapist said "If she is damaging your property in anyway, call the police". In this case it seemed a bit extreme. I went to fd and told her that if she didn't stop I would call the police and that seemed to make her stop for a minute so she could gain control. But if he is slashing tires and things like that I say by all means call the police. For one, you do have to protect yourself and your property. For another it will show him that you do have lines he cannot cross without serious repercussions, and finally it will force social services to deal with you.