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Originally Posted By Irene

I want to adopt a young healthy little girl but at the moment it cost to much. Can I keep a foster child forever?

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Originally Posted By Holly

Irene,
I too want to adopt a baby girl and have the some problem . Hopfully there is someone kind enough to help us both.

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Originally Posted By bindy_03256@yahoo.com

Try to contact National Adoption Foundation, 100 Mill Plain Road, Danbury CT 06811
they try to help needed adoptions.. Good luck.. Just write a letter explaining your cercumstances...

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Originally Posted By sometimes

Sometimes a foster child stays in a home "forever. I've seen it happen. But the problem is that you (and more importantly) the child can't count on anything. Everything could change at any moment.

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Originally Posted By Clare

I have heard of "state assisted adoptions" where the state assists the family finacially until the child is 18. I know someone who is doing this in Conn. They are adopting their foster children. I don't know if Massachusetts has any programs like this.

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Originally Posted By Mike

Call the Dept. of Social Services regional office at:
978-557-2700, and ask for the "adoption unit." There are over 4,000 kids in Ma. that are waiting to be adopted. Most are age 3+ but occassionally, younger kids become available. We wanted to adopt and did alot of research. It costs approx. $26,000 - $30,000 to adopt over seas, & it costs approx. $15,000-$18,000 to adopt here in the U.S. using a private agency. We then discovered that if we adopt through the Ma. Dept. of Social Services, it costs $0. There are pros & cons to all three types of adoption, however, after weighing: cost, medical disclosure of child and parents, after adoption support(services), we chose The Ma. D.S.S.. A little over a year ago, we started the process, and we now have a baby boy. We got him at 4 days old. We are technically his foster parents at the moment, till the adoption is finalized. Until such time, the State is PAYING US monthly, for taking care of him! There is a slight risk that the child might be returned to the mother, however we are willing to take the chance.

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Originally Posted By janet

i agree, there are too many children that need loving parents and a home, i think the cost is way too high to be able to adopt a child, its a money racket, what happened to the best interect of the children!!!!! my husband and i want to adopt so badly but can't because of the high cost.

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Originally Posted By david@jlschili@hotmail.com

my wife and i want to adopt a baby so badly but the high cost is crazy! People throwing babies away everyday so many in orphanages but its a high dollar business, so many children grow up in orphanges instead of something being done to help those children find loving homes.

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Originally Posted By Allison

You can adopt thru DSS, but you must be savey to the system. Call your regional office and tell them you want to adopt, and they will try to place potentially adoptable children with you. You have to take a 8 week course and than they will do a home study. Even under the best of circumstances, it can be rough. Bio-parents have a legal right to see their kids once a month for an hour (minimum..sometimes more frequently and for longer visits) Some parents will temporarily dust themselves off to look good and get their kids back, only to have them re-enter the system later, some parents will get court ordered cracker-jack lawyers. My first adoption was a 7 day old baby girl, whose mom ultimatly gave the child up, and the whole process took 2 yrs. 9 mmonths. My second was a 2 day old girl, who was returned to her mom at 4 1/2 months, and than came back to me at 16 months. Shes 5 1/2 now and it's still in legal limbo. My third was a 2 day old boy who had only very minimal contact with his birth mom, but she refused to terminate her rights, so the whol process took a little over 4 years. I have wonderful kids, so it's a success story, but alot of bumps along the way, so if you choose this method, go into it with your eyes wide open! Good luck

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Originally Posted By Wendy

I agree. With 100%. There are alot of babies and kids waiting to be adopted but is allways seems to be about money. That is sad. I wish you and your wife the best of luck with finding a baby to adopt. I am in the same boat. Money issues.

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Originally Posted By Zoe E

How long have you had your son? Has there been any more word on finalization? Please let me know, I'm very interested. Good luck to you.--Zoe

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Originally Posted By Betty Henderson

Call Alliance for Children located in Wellesley Ma. They give financial help if you adopt a child with needs.We tried to adopt a little girl from China whose one leg was shorter than another but we didn't meet the income standards for China. They do try to help you.781-431-7148...Feel free to mention me.

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Originally Posted By Betty Henderson

Have you considered adopting a child with mild needs? Like a hare lip, short leg, ect. Call Alliance for Children. They offer financial assistance to these waiting children. I think they can help you.781-431-7148.Feel free to mention my name...

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Originally Posted By Betty

Is it the same as the adoption unit you mentioned?Do you have a phone number?Thanks.You can e-mail me at marbetpab@juno.com

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I am single 56 and am a fostermother of up to 6 severely or terminally ill children
I have adopted one, I had her since she came out of the hospital, just under 6 lbs, a preemie with several medical problems. now at 4 1/2 she is just fine and healthy. The first 2 years were hard and she has had cardiac surgery, she was a "crack" baby. But now she is just a normal chatterbox who knows shes the love of my life.

My second , who will be adopted in 2 weeks, was a shaken baby. He's been with me since he was 3 mo old. He had brain stem damage and 14 fractures. He is now 2 1/2 and is a happy running laughing boy, he has a few motor skill delays and has had a very hard time learning to talk, but he can finally say mommy, he has had to have 3 brain surgeries and now has a shunt. his mental status is fine. He is the son of my heart and so dear to me I have to cry when I remember the battered little thing they brought me.

My 3rd is a 12 yo girl who I knew was mine when she was only in this house a week. We are still getting to know one another and she having to learn to live in a family, something shes never done. She has no medical problems. Her adoption should be within the year.

None of my adoptions cost me one cent!!!!! I have had many many babies come through my home, I could have adopted any number of them, they (DSS) always ask me first if I'd like to adopt them just before they put them on the adoption rolls.

Fostercare can fill a void if you go at it with the right attitude and knowing that you will loose some and yes it will hurt, but your special child is out there, just keep looking!