[sheree72]

We are an foster adoption home that have been placed with a beautiful 2 month old baby girl. She was born cocaine positive the question i have is i have noticed that she is compforted easy but gets upset when we move her to different holding positions. Im thinking this is probably having to do with her positive screening but want an opionion on this. Any advance would be great . )

[jen1mac]

Hello! I am new to the forum. We have an 8 month old foster adopt daughter who was also a cocaine baby. She still does not like change either of position or schedule. She is doing a lot better each month that we have had her. We just try and stay consistant with her schedule and changing her position gradually and slowly.

[sheree72]

THanks for your input. The other thing latelly we have noticed is when she wakes up sometimes its hard to cheer her up. There are days where she is smiling and cooing and other days when nothing seems to make her happy. It seems as if we show her a toy sometimes that sidetracks her and she forgets why she was fussing to begin with. lol. She is 4 months old, but i do hope she will outgrow the fussiness.

[jen1mac]

Our daughter is fussy also esp. when we have more activity going on like around the holidays or when we start something new like her physical therapy. The day after she is usually more fussy. I will say she is not as fussy as she use to be and she does seems to have more happy times. How does your daughter sleep?

[sheree72]

Not well, we have had her for 6 weeks and termination papers were put in about 5 weeks ago. She is now 4 months. She usually wakes up about 2 - 3 hours. Once in awhile she will sleep 4 or 4 half hours, if we are lucky. (lol) Latelly its strange, she wakes up crying which is typical and stays upset for awhile. When we feed her she is fine, but then when it comes to burp time she cries through the whole thing. I know it sounds funny, but i honestly think she has a temper allready. once we get her focused on something else she usually stops, but she gets mad when we burp her . I hope she grows out of this stage, shes been doing the fussiness thing for about 2 weeks . I hope its not a temper that will last...lol however as far as her upset when we move her she has done that since we got her, sometimes she gets upset and sometimes shes ok if we move her slowly.

[Awaiting]

I babysat a Cocaine + baby. She also hated to be burped and would cry so hard she threw it all back up. I then would try different burping positions until I found one she liked. She liked to be held in one arm so she was facing down at the floor and her head was by my elbow. I would walk back and forth while kinda bouncing and tap her back with the palm of my hand until she burped. Her parents were absolutly thrilled. Just to clarify, they were FP not the bio parents. But she is 4 now and still has a temper. If her schedule changes or they do something out of the ordinary, it's like putting a blindfold on a deaf person. She goes for the floor and just screams.

[sheree72]

i have to say that makes me worry a bit. I hope its just a baby thing she is going through and not a lifetime problem she may have. Its just amazing how mad she can get and something so common as burping, i know most babies get mad, but boy, i let her drink the whole bottle and she still gets mad and cries through it..

[Awaiting]

Honestly, the doctors told her it could last forever, or it could fade. It really depends on how severe the bmoms addiction was, how much and how often she used. Just like a mother who abuses alcohol, it affects development in ways we can't just fix. So it may wear off and it may not. I don't like to make it sound unsure, but it really is. They were born addicted to it and the tremors that adults go through for withdrawls is absolutly awful...think what that baby is feeling. But you can have the baby evaluated and see, but really it's just a wait game.

[jen1mac]

I will tell you our baby has just continued to show signs of improvement the more love we give her and the more we work with trying to help her calm herself. I know our baby really liked to be firmly massaged on her legs and back when she was really fussy. She didn't like a light touch. She also liked to be in really warm pajamas to sleep in. That seem to bring her more comfort. We have also been doing physical and speech therapy to help with her tightness and rigid muscles but also in trying to find ways to help her comfort and calm herself.

[Awaiting]

Good, good, good. I didn't mean to sound dicouraging. I was only relaying what I learned in college and from my first hand experiance with one child. Jen, you are right though. When I held T, she loved to be held tightly. Very tightly wrapped in a blanket, or in snug clothing. As I said before, she is 4 now. She still loves to be snuggeled to sleep by rocking. Again, don't be discouraged. There is a solution to everything. There are ways to find comfort, it takes experimentation. Good luck!

[fm22]

Sheree, There is a great resource called PICC, look it up on the internet, it is in Kent, WA, I think they may have a help line you can call. I also know someone in Region three who is an expert at babies born addicted, she has lots of experience. If you are in that Region Private Message me and I will get you in contact with her, if not she may know someone in your area. Erin