[joycebrat@chart]

Me and my husband have also had alot of run around with the state to adopt. We went threw adoption classes last year and we still have not got to adopt yet. Every time that I call on one or we get put in on a homestudy we get told you did not fit because they need you home with them all the time. Me and my husband both work we have 4 other children and they do not suffer from our work style we still have time to do activities and be very active in everything that they do. So someone please tell me what is the diffrence in a child of your own being in daycare or at a sitters than a child that you are going to adopt either way the most important thing to me is that this child has a loving family that will take good care of them and give them what they need to become good adults when they get older. We have got very upset about the whole adoption process and are thinking seriosly about not doing it. We have a very good stable home and could be loving parents to a childor children but are very disappointed in the adoption process. If anyone else has had this problem please replwhat you done.

[gormancrew]

I don't think it really matters if you stay home, or work. I quit my job last June in order to be home when we adopt. I also have other children who were in daycare/pre-school, and they are very well adjusted, good students, and self-confident. I think that the case workers are so overloaded, that they sometimes don't have enough time to look at everyone that is interested. I have looked on line at other states waiting children and submitted homestudies, and the process is just as slow, they get hundreds of inquiries on each child posted. I guess we just keep our chins up, keep praying, and hope that the right child is waiting for us, and that when the time comes, we'll have them in our families. I am glad to see someone from Tennessee in here, I thought I was alone.