[FosterMom2002]

Well we got some disturbing news yesterday. My son to be son's grandma OD and it is making me soooooo very sad. We had a great relationship until she decided to try and become a fulltime member in our family and it became not so nice. She was in the middle of suing the State of Oregon for her rights. Anyways I can't believe how this has hit me. The guilt is unbelievable. Has anyone out there ever gone though this? Thanks

[Para]

Hi,
Well I haven't gone though anything like you are before the adoption but I can say that my childrens bio grandmother does see the kids a few times a year.
She is loving, as well as a bit odd cause she grew up in an orphanage herself, had a hard life (long story) but she is part of our family on my terms.
The best thing about this relationship is the fact that the Great Grandparents (through marriage) are also involved and I love them as much as my own parents-so this is all a plus for all involved in the adoption of our wonderful family.

Good Luck, I hope you all can come to some sort of arrangement that will benifit everyone, just make sure its on your terms if your going to be the adoptive parent.

[mj77]

I am sorry for your news. It must be such a shock. I haven't been in your boat but I know going against the state can be difficult.

Melissa