[Sabra]

Hello Everyone:

This is a new forum for all parents that are fostering a child in the state of Kansas or would like to. If you have fostered a child in the past in the state of Kansas and would like to encourage foster parents for this state you are welcome to post on this forum as well.

Please feel free to network about various aspects of foster parenting.

You may wish to share with one another about services available in your state. Helpful tips on transitioning a child into your home. Problems or concerns in which you would like to have perspectives from other foster parents. Activities that foster families enjoy. Vacation ideas. And any other topics that foster families may have in common.

Post and make new friends in your own home state!

[Hannah's Mommy]

I live in Kansas and am a foster parent. I enjoy it a great deal.

Nice to meet you...

have a great weekend.

[LisaK]

I'm also a foster parent in Kansas. I'm glad we finally have someone posting on the Kansas site.

[Hannah's Mommy]

Welcome Lisa...

where in ks about are you? I live in the country...just south of nebraska.

[LisaK]

I live in a small town North of Wichita. We have been fostering for almost 5 years and have two foster daughters right now as well as two biological sons. Do you have any children right now?

Lisa

[Hannah's Mommy]

Lisa,

I have two of my own children. A little boy who is 6 and my Daughter who is almost 8. I have two foster children at the moment 5 and 1. They have two syblings that are in a different foster home and I am trying to get them here so they can be together. That will mean I have a 1,2,3, 5, 6, and seven year old. I figure as much as my sanity is in question here the long term benifits for these kids is much more.

I absolutly enjoy my children. The five year old is testing everything i believe in...she has never had boundries and now she does. She doesnt like it very much. However she is doing MUCH better with it.

The one year old I have is just adorable. What can you say about a one year old. He is discovering new things every day.

I hope I havent babbled too much...Sorry if I have.

Have a great day...

[LisaK]

That's awesome. Two years ago I had a newborn, 1, 2, 3 and 4 year olds. It was crazy at times, but I don't regret it. Right now my sons are 2 (almost 3) and 6. My foster daughters are 1 and 9.
We've been lucky with these two and even though I wasn't sure about taking a 9 year old, I'm glad I did. Do you only take younger kids?

Have a great day,
Lisa

[Hannah's Mommy]

Awesome. I am glad things are going well for you....Wow that does sound crazy. I imagine you are right I think in the big picture its worth it.

No we havehad teen agers and lots of them. Just right now I like the younger ones but I have told the agency its all conditional and depends on the situation. I am not apposed to teens but right now I like the ones that dont have ill feelings twards like and think they know everything....ok well they think they know everything but they are at least cute about it....


I am sorry if this doesnt make any sense I am really tired today. I had the baby at the DRs then ran home got his diaper bag ready for his visit. picked his sister up at school, met the workers so they could go to the visit. I got to meet the other two girls...omg they are precious....they are really cute..I want them bad now....

we will see.


have a wonderful day. I will write later when I am not having to think so hard...heehee

[LisaK]

Good luck getting the other two. Let me know what happens. I'm getting ready to take my kids to visit my grandmother since the kids are off school today. Have a great weekend.

Lisa

[Hannah's Mommy]

good luck with the visit...

We had a visit yesterday. I wasnt there. But I heard it went ok. I wonder what thier idea of ok is....

Have a great weekend...

Mel...

[LisaK]

Hope you had a good weekend. It's been crazy here. The kids have been going non-stop to birthday parties, and halloween parties and church activities. That's the one thing that sometimes bothers me about foster care. It seems like you're never home with all of the kid's activities and therapy and Dr's appointments, and visits. I know what you mean about them telling you the visits went "ok". My two are going to therapeutic visits and the therapist doesn't tell me anything about how they went. At least the family support worker would usually give me some idea about how visits were going, but now that she's not in on the visits, noone seems to know what's going on except the therapist and she doesn't seem to want to tell anyone else. Well I better get back to the kids, the baby just woke up.

Have a great day,
Lisa

[Hannah's Mommy]

there is just one thing that bothers you about foster care? Heehee....

There are many I could come up with...heehee...anyway I am still fighting to get the two syblings and noone is listening..why is that....UGH!

anyway had a normal weekend.

hope all is well....

Mel

[LisaK]

Good luck with getting the siblings. Sometimes it feels like you have to fight everyone to get what's best for the kids. The system is totally frustrating at times, but the kids make it worth it. At least I've had pretty good luck with the kids I've had. Even with the worst behaving kids, it's been so great to seem them improve and start to follow rules.

Well, I forgot to pack my son's lunch, so I have to get something up to school for him.

Lisa

[Hannah's Mommy]

LOL, I feel better that you have forgotten too. I thought I was the only one who has done that. Luckily I live in a small town and they know me and I live across the street from the school I can easily get there. But boy did I feel bad.

I am still fighting to get them and will continue until it seems like it just wont happen.

part of it is thier social workers are not exactly on top of things. that doesnt help much.

I agree the kids make it all worth it. I am hoping all four of these kids go up for adoption. I would like to adopt them. I think the five year old would feel more secure because she would know she belonged here. Last night we were at dinner and my daughter was saying that there were two different last names at the table and my foster daughter said I can be your last name if I want. And the fight like sisters was on..heehee...but thats what I mean she isnt sure where she belongs. and that isnt fair.

they are all adorable. the baby is as cute as cute can be.

in anycase I could whine about this forever....LOL

Have a great day...

Mel

[LisaK]

Hopefully things will work out and you will get them. I thought they were supposed to keep siblings together when possible, unless they were seperating them for safety or emotional reasons. But I know that what they say and what they do are often different.
Good luck on adopting. It looks like my 2 are going to come up for adoption and we're debating on whether or not were going to adopt them. I love them both and I'm leaning that way. The 9 year old and my 6 year old are best friends, so I can't imagine not adopting them. But, sometimes I can't imagine giving up foster care.
Have a great day,
Lisa