[LynMaria]

We were matced with a toddler in N.Y. back in May. Our homestudy needed updating...the update baegan in June. N.Y gave our state (AR) a deadline date of Sept. 24 to have the update completed and forwarded to them. Well, the deadline was not met on our end, by no fault of ours, I did everything possible to make sure our worker had everything she needed to complete our update. She indicated to me on Sept. 25th that she was "swamped" and may need to contract help outside of the agency. Bottom line...no telling when our update will be completed and by whom. I am sooo discouraged, we have been working on getting our little guy home since February! We are foster parents and figured to update our adoptive homestudy would be a breeze since we ARE foster parents. O.K...... my question: Might we be able to bring our child home as our fosterchild until the agency gets around to updating our homestudy? I am so afraid that N.Y. is going to give up on us. I just don't know what more we can do? Please help.

[koodos_76]

We are in the middle of an interstate adoption thru foster care. We are going through Nevada so it might be a little different, but who knows. We got our boys before our state got everything done. Since we were foster care certified they allowed us to bring our little ones home for a visit until it was finished. This was last June and we are just now working on the adoption. Hope this helps. If you need anyother info let me know. My e-mail is koodos_76@hotmail.com

[sues250]

I adopt my daughter through the state of NY and i am from Ohio. I was a foster placement for her before we finialized. You can email me and maybe i can give you some addresses of people i went through. FYI I was not a foster home before i did the adoption homestudy I became one once I got my daughter from NY.

[LynMaria]

Thank you so much....I was sure no one had ever experienced such a unique situation. I have privately emailed you guys. I'd love to know your experiences.

[judyluz9]

We are fostering a daughter from Nevada. We had her brother also, but he was moved for serious things he did? we are now trying to just keep our daughter with us. I'm not sure what will happen I've posted our story on other boards. We are not too happy with the State of Nevada and what they are wanting to do to our family. I hope things work out well for you, and you get your little boy. Judy

[lizzy0921]

We welcomed home our 10 year old twins in July, 2002. It is now Nov 3, 2003 and as of Oct 31, 2003 we were told by Probate court (in Connecticut) that there were only two families waiting to be scheduled in court before us. Today I called to follow up and we're STILL NOT scheduled for a court date to finalize. I am very upset, the kids are very upset..today at the dentist office I was called Mrs. (the kids legal last name) instead of my last name. The kids were told back in June that the finalization would be SOON. I wouldn't call November soon! We're an easy case too, no issues, the kids are great, have adjusted well, we even have visits with the biological family. Its just an easy case, so says Social services, but why can't they help us out some and make the finalization easy too....its really disgusting that they make these kids live for years in foster care (5 years in our case) then they start searching for adoptive homes (we got lucky (or the boys did) and found the boys just as they were listed available, about 6 months into availability). Now they've been with us for almost 18 months. Half their lives in foster care...simply sad!!!!

[buzzbee]

We are working with the ICPC in order to adopt my cousins baby. The state of TX is not working with us either, they have promised him to the foster family. The court dates keep getting changed and it has been a long 5 mths. Do they promise children to foster families alot, knowing that it does not always happen? If so is it a gimic to keep foster families in the program?

[lizzy0921]

My last post was on Nov 3, 2003. We were having problems with CT getting us the finalization date. On Dec 2, 2003 we finally went to court. On March 28, 2004 we welcomed home two more boys who are from TX. We're now waiting for that adoption to finalize. CT took a whole year before they got us a date when we should have had everything done within 8 months. Plus they kept telling the boys every month at the home visits that they would be finalized by a certain date. It was very discouraging!!! The two boys from TX have been here 8 months and we should be final by December. What a difference in the States and how they work!! I guess we all have issues with the specific states we work with.

Our newest issue now is that we wish to bring home another child from the last TX foster home we took the boys from. The worker is saying that we need to be a whole year after finalization before they can let us take another child. That wasn't the case this last time. So now I am told its up to the different social and placement workers.

I say we get the US to make ONE set of rules that all the states have to follow. Make everyone run their social services offices the same way, same paperwork, same finalization times, everything should be the same from state to state.

Liz
Mom of 4 boys (hopefully soon to be 5)