[jessbud99]

Hello,

My Fiance and I are just beginning the process. We are getting married in July. I am just wondering if anyone here has any experience or knowledge on how to begin the process because we are not yet married. Is this frowned upon? We both want to get started a.s.a.p. I have two children from a previous marriage and they are 12 and 10 and I would like them to still be young enough to enjoy a new brother or sister. Any thoughts?

Jessica

[djb_97]

Jessica -

Hello and welcome! Congratulations on your decision to adopt and your upcoming wedding.

What type of adoption are you interested in? Waiting/special needs, domestic american infant, international, fost/adopt?

In MN. most agencies have strict rules for american infant and international adoptions ( depending on which country ) as for length of marriage.

First decide what type of adoption you're seeking and then call agencies for info and attend orientation meetings. Hope this helps, best of luck and please keep us posted.

Take care,
Deb

[jessbud99]

Thank you for your reply Deb.

We are leaning more and more towards open adoption. I was adopted by my dad when I was just a baby. My mom is my bmom. I got the chance to meet my bdad's parents about 10 years ago but have never gotten the chance to meet my bdad. My bdad was also adopted by his parents. Long story short, from my own experience I think that it is hard growing up with unanswered questions. Who you are, where you come from, those kinds of things. It is hard enough growing up these days.

[katieb31323]

Welcome to the world of adoption! We are Minnesota parents currently waiting to adopt again.

Open or semi open adoption has many benefits for which you seem interested in. Are you thinking of adopting from the state or going with private agencies? Most agencies have a requirement of anywhere from 2 to 3 years of marriage length before you can even apply. For international adoption the marriage length requirement changes.

Good luck
Katie

[jessbud99]

we haven't really decided yet what type of agency that we want to go with. I just recently contacted LSS and am waiting for them to send me some info.

[CeraDad]

jessbud, congrats on your upcoming (or past) nuptials (sp). My DW and I went through LSS for our adoption. They are a pretty good agency to go through. They definitely care for both the aparents and bparents. We are going to be starting up again here pretty soon. Good luck with whoever you go with. And remember, it's all about the child and what is best for them.