[djb_97]

Hi everyone -

Last week we got a call that an expectant mom wanted to meet with us and she was due this week!

We were thrilled, we had been in the books for almost 7 weeks without hearing anything, we were looking forward to this first meeting.

Well it was scheduled for Monday ( 12th ) morning, we arrived early so we could talk with our social worker before meeting with the birthparent worker and expectant parent. The meeting time came and went, no call, no show from the expectant parents. She did have a doctors appointment right before the meeting, so at first we just thought it ran late, then we thought may be she was in labor. They tried to track her down and left messages on her cell phone, after over an hour of waiting, the agency decided to send us home and would call us once they knew what was happening.

Around 2pm, we got a call saying she had the baby and according to the birthdad, they decided to try to parent. It's a long story - she wanted the adoption, he didn't. We're happy for them as long as she is sure this is what she wants also, ( she's already parenting 3 ).

We're disappointed, we were so excited about the meeting and possibly becoming parents this week. It's sad that now when we get the next call for a meeting, we won't be as excited about it and will be more guarded.

We knew it would be a roller coaster, it still hurts though, we'll survive and our baby WILL find us.

Take care,
Deb

[tobeafamily]

Hang in there Deb - these things are sooo tough and honestly don't get a lot easier. It is definitely the most unpredictable roller coaster I've ever experienced!

The good news is that you're making connections early on, even if this isn't the one that ended in placement.

Regina, AMom to Ryan Joshua Thomas

[djb_97]

Hi Regina -

Thanks so much. The other good thing is that it happened before placement and that we never actually met the expectant parents and formed any bonds.

We do wish them the best though and pray things work out for them.

Take care,
Deb

[AnnaE]

Hi Deb, I am sorry for what you went through. Things could still change again. They may try to parent and it will be too difficult, etc. As a foster mom I have seen everything. Just keep the faith that the baby meant for you will come. Blessings, Donna

[djb_97]

Hi Donna -

Thank you so much for your kind words and encouragement, I really appreciate it. I'm keeping the thought of her deciding she can't parent in the back of my mind and hope if it happens, she'll think of us again if possible, but we're trying to move forward and be positive about our baby waiting to find us.

I'll keep you posted.

Hugs,
Deb

[CeraDad]

Sorry to hear about the disappointment. Keep praying. God has your child waiting for you.

[MaryM]

Hi there Deb-

I am so sorry to hear that things didn't go as you had hoped this time—just remember it's THIS time, and soon you will have your baby home with you. I don't know when, but it will happen. You're tough, hang in there—just like you said to me .

[djb_97]

Hi CeraDad & MaryM -

Thank you so much for your kind words of encouragement, it helps having such wonderful support!!

Hugs,
Deb

[katieb31323]

Hi

I haven't checked here in awhile, I am so sorry Deb!!! Ugh! That is frustrating and emotionally exhausting. I hope you are doing OK now. Adoption is sure a rollercoaster ride! Take care of yourself and hang in there!

Katie

[Adoption_Mama]

Hi Deb:

I the rest of your replys I'm sorry that happen to you, I know how you and your husband feel.
We just got our little girl in Nov. after two years of waiting
But it was a good wait because it gave us time to really think if this is truly something we wanted after every almost and then we got the call one day.
Believe me It's all worth the wait because maybe this was not the right one and your child is still out there for you. I know our was and we went as far as talking to someone and almost having another child place in our home and like your it didn't work out until last year.

Hang it there and don't give up

[djb_97]

Hi Katie and AdoptionMama -

Thanks for your replies. I am doing much better, it's still sad it didn't work out, but we are positive our baby will find us soon. I think about the birthparents often and pray they and the baby are doing well.

The waiting has been hard, but I feel I am handling it very well. I've been keeping myself busy and hope to go back to temp work soon. DH & I will also be moving the office downstairs so we can start working on the baby's room - we've created a storage problem with all the baby stuff we've been given and have bought, UGH!! I also think it would be nice once it's done, to include a photo of the room in our profile.

I will keep everyone posted , thanks again to all of you for the wonderful support and encouragement, it is appreciated!

Take care!
Hugs,
Deb

[AMom2Two]

Deb...

I'm sorry this didn't work out for you either. I hope and pray that your forever child will come to you soon.

hugs,

[djb_97]

Hi there!

Thanks so much!! What's new with you?

Lots of hugs,
Deb