[tlccentral]

Hello all! I am new to these forums and would like to share.

I was born in July of 1967, placed for adoption and immediately adopted by the coolest people I know. I was raised with an older brother, also adopted.

For health reasons I searched for my birthmother in July of 2000 and found within a few hours. While it is not a mother/daughter relationship, we have a really close friendship that I am so thankful for. My birthfather....well, that was a stone better left unturned

Anyhoo, my adopted brother continually chided me for finding my birthmother (and 2 1/2 siblings), calling what I did "disrespectful" and many other choice words. I encouraged him to do the same as it was such a positive experience for me. Unfortunately for him he chose not to.

Today, however, the shoe is on the other foot and I find myself experiencing many different emotions...

He found out several weeks ago that his girlfriend is pregnant. They live in Cancun, MX and he is American while she is Mexican. He has never desired children and it is better that he never becomes a daddy. At the moment, he claims that she wants to place the baby for adoption but from what I have read so far, it doesn't sound like an easy process. I read somewhere that the baby has to be 'abandoned' for 6 months before it can be considered for adoption? Is that true? If so, where does it live? Who takes care of it?

I just don't even know how to begin to express my emotions at the moment. I am happy for some family who potentially could receive this awesome gift...I am sad for his girlfriend who I don't think understands what is really happening to her..I am angry at my brother for being irresponsible......blah....I am all over the place...sorry for the long email, I guess Ijust needed to purge...thanks for listening!

[mommytoEli]

If you google adoption in Mexico, you can actually find a few agencies who deal with this and read more about the process. But yes, it is very difficult, time consuming, and expensive.....so many U.S. families do not chose this route tp pursue adoption. I don't know if domestic adoption in Mexico is a viable option. Anyone else?