[Little Princess]

Hi,
I have an 8 year old daughter who we were blessed with since she was 1 month old. I have spoken to her about adoption and have read several books with her about adoption but she really doesn't want to hear much about it. During the reading of some of the books I've had the opportunity to mention that she grew in someone else's tummy and how she came to us but I'm not quite sure she understood and dismissed the subject. We were attending an adoption support group but she doesn't want to go any more. Any suggestions on how to proceed from here?

Thanks,

[Linny]

I agree with Miranda! This little one will let you know if/when she wants to know more. I know when our oldest ones were little, we celebrated 'adoption day' each year. Each adoption day, I would ask the same question, "Is there anything about your adoption/birthfamily that you want to know about that I haven't already told you?"

The answer was ALWAYS 'no'. I think we parents often worry too much about the kids 'worrying' about being adopted; when in fact, when it's openly accepted, it becomes 'second nature' to them.

Sincerely,

Linny

[lambeausam]

By eight years old, most kids will ask questions when they are ready to hear the answers. Whether it's adoption or the "birds and the bees," I would suggest that you limit your answer to the question asked. If you try to pile too much on, you may lose a wonderful opportunity to communicate with your child.

I have two sons that were adopted, each at the age of 2 1/2. They are now 7 1/2 and soon-to-be 4. Each boy knows his is adopted, but the level of understanding is quite different due to their ages.

Good Luck!

[Little Princess]

Thanks for all the feedback.