[DonnaLynn]

I have read and reread so many adoption sites. I have been up and I have been down.

Some sites have just the right information and right feel about them. Then I came across a site about abolish adoption<<<What!

I long with the deepest part of my soul for a baby daughter.
And due to physical defiencies on my part I cannot even get pregnant in an attempt to have her.

So here I am waiting on God to help me and my bmother find each other. For adoption IS NOT ONLY for adoptive parents to fulfill the dream of having a child to love.

In an open adoption it will be for a bmother to know and trust the aparents she chooses. And it is for the baby to know that all their parents love them and want the very best life for them.

As I have said I have read so much.. When all I really look for is that bmother notice saying I am pregnant for a baby girl I am looking for a big loving family so that she will always have a life full of laughter and goodness. I am waiting to find her or have her find me....

Guess we all would like to say it sometimes.

(also almost every site I have been at states no soliciting for adoption) I know there are real good reason for this but at the same time .. What if that is the way aparents and bmothers are suppose to connect?
I have to trust God will open the window if the door is closed.

Think I am a bit bummed today.. So much working at waiting..

I am a take action person.. this here is my life lesson in patience.

Be well Stay safe Know peace Trust God

[Support2Adopt]

(also almost every site I have been at states no soliciting for adoption) I know there are real good reason for this but at the same time .. What if that is the way aparents and bmothers are suppose to connect?

There are excellent reasons for no solicitation posts. One being, having message boards to be a safe place for potential Birthmothers to post without worry of being approached by potential adoptive parents in hopes of adopting their babies. If you look further into the various adoption sites you have been checking out, you'll find that alot of them have a section for people to have their Dear Birthmother letter in. This is a great place for a potential Birthmother and a potential adoptive parent to meet. I agree with you about this being a lesson in patience. Hang in there. That parience will pay off! JJ

[DonnaLynn]

OOPS!

Before I am completely misunderstood. I did not mean using the forums as a place to locate and track down a birthmom and ask for her baby.

I was wanting to offer myself as open to being posted to or emailed by birthmothers.

Please Please dont ever get me wrong on the bmom issue.
She is and always will be a jewel among women and hold a place in my heart. Will always be welcome in my home.


I wanted it to be Okay for her to Find Me...

[Stormy]

"due to physical defiencies on my part I cannot even get pregnant "

I look at my high risk pregnancy status as a blessing now. If it weren't for my feeling it wasn't safe to be pregnant, we wouldn't have our son. One day I pray you see the same blessings in your life as you look at your little baby girl.

"Think I am a bit bummed today.. So much working at waiting.."

It took us 2 years and an incredible fight to find our son. And looking back it was worth every tear and every struggle. You too will feel that someday (hopefully soon).

It is so very hard to be strong in this adoption wait. I know you hear a lot of families who have already adopted say that your child will come one day. But I remember that when you are waiting for your arms to fill with your baby child, that doesn't help much. And if you are like me there are times that you just feel it would preserve your sanity if you just give up. But at those times I think you just have to give yourself over to auto-pilot. Give it one last push and that always got me through. I always said, "this is it, after this we aren't going to try to adopt anymore..." ANd then by the time I got finished with that last chore that I set up for myself I was ready to wait again. Many people say God is at work in adoption (whoever God may be to you). I think that is true. I feel God led us to our son. I firmly belive that in our great plan in life it was always clear that he would be our son. One phone call, one message, one letter is all it can take. Just making one extra call, getting your name out to one more agency. And while the wait is horrible, I see now how it has helped me be a better parent. I am more patient with my children. I appreciate them more because I know the struggle to have adopted them.

I will pray that your child finds her way home soon.

[Support2Adopt]

Before I am completely misunderstood. I did not mean using the forums as a place to locate and track down a birthmom and ask for her baby.

Donna, as a board moderator, along with being a board host, if I felt you were truely trying to solicite a potential Birthmother, I would have removed your post. I think you are just yearning to hold a baby in your arms. :-) JJ