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Originally Posted By Brenda

I have worked for the same company for the past 9 years, and have had the same boss (a woman) for the past 3. We have always had a great relationship. About a year ago, after trying for 5 years to have a baby my husband and I started looking into adoption. My boss was always really supportive when we were going through our infertility treatments and was very sweet to me through all my dissapointments. I didnt really talk too much about our adoption plans until we matched with a birthmother about 6 weeks ago. The baby is due in about 4 weeks, and we are ecstatic. But now her attitude towards me has totally changed. A few of the girls in the departments wanted to throw me a baby shower (which they have done for all expectant mothers around here) and she refused to let it be held on company time or on the premises. My friend told me she would not contribute to my gift, or sign the card. My birthmother has called the office twice, and she wrote me up for personal phone calls. I went to my birthmothers Dr appointment and was 10 minutes late getting back from lunch , and she wrote me up again for being late and said next write up will be my "final warning". I went to HR and they told me she was perfectly within her rights to write me up for tardiness and personal phone calls. The thing is, nobody else gets treated this way. I heard also, that when someone asked her why she would not come to my shower she said she would not "Condone my "Buying" some other womans baby", but I cant verify the rumor. She barely speaks to me and to top it All off, she took the entire department out to lunch the other day and made me stay behind and answer the departments phones. She is making what should be a joyous time for me totally miserable. There are no other departments for me to transfer to at this time, and I need this job. My husband is self employed and we use my job for all our benefits. Any advice on what I should do or how I can try to talk to her about this?

Brenda

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It is time you begin to ignore your bosses behavior, the attention she is loking for she have received it from you and co-workers. You are at the job to give what you have in skills and talent, not to be pampered about your personal life. See her action as a promotion for you. Stop listen to the talebearers. let them know you really do not want to hear any more.Your greatest impact in this situation will be your silencefrom now on . You must have an outside friend you can share this joyous time with. Let your place of business be just that. CONGRADULATION ON YOUR NEW ARRIVAL MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU.

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Originally Posted By Dear Brenda

It is time you begin to ignore your bosses behavior, the attention she is loking for she have received it from you and co-workers. You are at the job to give what you have in skills and talent, not to be pampered about your personal life. See her action as a promotion for you. Stop listen to the talebearers. let them know you really do not want to hear any more.Your greatest impact in this situation will be your silencefrom now on . You must have an outside friend you can share this joyous time with. Let your place of business be just that. CONGRADULATION ON YOUR NEW ARRIVAL MAY GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOU.

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No matter how much your boss's altitude about your
adoption plans bother you, keep your head up and keep a smile on your face. This should be a very joyous time
for you, so don't let her or anyone else bring your
spirits down. I think she is jeolous and it sounds like
she could use some prayer.