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Originally Posted By Sierra

This is my first time posting, it took me weeks to find this message board.

My husband and I are starting the adoption process now and some of it seems so (can't find the right word). We are so scared, so very scared, that we won't qualify to adopt. How do they determain of your financially able? Lord knows we have enough space for a child and enough love and compassion (we already have 3 wonderful children) so where does the money line come in? I'm 31 and husband is Chaz, 30.

I don't want to do this by myself. I would like some advice. please post here or email me at sierra9970@charter.net. Thanks, sierra

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Originally Posted By Leticia

We're also just starting and in need of support. We have one daughter, but would like to add to our family.I'm trying to find a local (San Gabriel Valley area) adoption support group. Do you know of any?

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Originally Posted By Ebbie

You are not alone in this. We are going through the decision phase of whether we are going to start the adoption process now or later. We have not totally made up our mind based on the fact that we know we are only going to be in VA another 9 months and then transferred somewhere else. We want to start, but we are concerned about the actual home study. Our concern is we choose to live in an one-bedroom apartment to save money because at this point we have no children and are living here temporarily. If we knew that we were going to be chosen for a child then of course without hesitation we would move into a two-bedroom. We just do not know if this is required prior to approval for the home study. I do think we all have the same fears. We want a child as much as others, but the timing is of concern. You can Email me anytime at skebrom@hotmail.com
Good luck and God bless you.

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Originally Posted By Marie

My hubby & I are waiting to adopt internationally, but have previously researched all types & have done some foster parenting, but all were returned to their homes & adoption of those kids was not an option. We've been married almost ten years, yet have no children & patience has worn well beyond thin having to watch all our family & friends parent multiple children, some of whom are now into their teens. At any rate, unfortunately, my advise to you would be to wait because, no matter which route you chose, private within your own country, international, through your state (adoption of a former foster child which has become available), I can pretty much guarantee the whole process will take longer than 9 mos from start to finish, and your home study will be specific to the home or apartment in which you currently live, so you'd have to refill out all the forms & redo your study. Trust me, I know it's frustrating as we are thinking of moving to a different area of town, downsizing to relieve ourselves of our mortgage and gain a better, more child-friendly neighborhood, be we must wait until after the adoption now because it's been over 6 mos. now since we first applied with our agency to adopt a child from another country and we're told it'll be at least 3 to 6 more months before we complete the process, and do not even have a match yet. It's doubtfull we'll have time to sell, move, & relocate withing that time frame & redo all the paperwork! We had no idea it would take so long in the beginning as we were led to believe we would have been over& back by now. Tip: double whatever you are told as far as time goes, there are just so many variables beyond the control of us or agencies, especially if you're going international due to political issues & all this middle-east stuff going on now. They'll tell you anything to keep you pacified, as I guess they must. So, wait we will! Good Luck.