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Originally Posted By shell

I have been trying to look for him. I can't find him and our mom is trying to find him too and she can't either. I always pray about it.
He is going to be 21 in June. His birth name is Seth.

Here is a poem;
When I feel sad I cry.
When I feel hurt I cry.
When I am confused I cry.
When I feel let down I cry.
When I feel betrayed I cry.
The End

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Originally Posted By Chris - adoptive mom

the reunion will be better because you & your brother will be more mature to handle the emotional part.

BTW....this forum is for ADOPTIVE MOMs not for adoptive searches.

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Originally Posted By A Mom

If this board is for adoptive moms only? Then let a board monitor tell the serchers it is for that only, as I see it, it is for anyone in the triad, I think you have to look at all aspects, not only yours.

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Originally Posted By Wait a minute......

Don't bash her! This is a board for adoptive moms to share their stories. There are tons of search areas on this board alone, I agree, I find it rather silly to post here.

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Originally Posted By Marie

Amen!

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Originally Posted By chris-adoptive mom

there are catagories. This one says Adoptive Mother's Stories at the top. It doesn't take a genius nor a board monitor to tell us that.

A person needs to search & post under the correct topic.

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Originally Posted By chris Adoptive Mom

I think that we are all trying as many sites as we can to find the person(s) we are looking for. if it bothers you, than don't read all the stories.

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Originally Posted By YOUR NAME goes here

I'm just clarifying the above as "not mine" but someone put my name to it.

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Originally Posted By both adoptive mom and adoptee

hmn-just visited for the first and only time.Since adoptees are not welcome here(like your own children that are adopted) then I will not be on a board that rejects members of the triad.I pity your adopted children.

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Originally Posted By adoptee/adopter

Shell,I pray that you find him as I am sure he needs his family at that age.It can only bless him.Reunions can be very healing for us and alot of adoptive parents are secure enough to handle it.It is not about them anyways-for once the adoptee actually gets to make a decision about his own life,instead of others.21 years is too long to wait.((HUGS))LJS

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Originally Posted By Voice of Experience

Alot of adoptive parents are secure enough to handle it??? At east you think so.....

YET, you don't know until it actually happens to YOU!

Security has nothing to do with it if you have true maternal feelings. All feelings on both sides are valid.

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Originally Posted By Voice of Experience

You pity our adoptive children? Do you pity yours? I do not think adoptees nor birth moms are unwelcome here. I just think that when they make a plea to FIND their natural children, it's better to post on the appropriate message board to get the help & attention they might need. Understand?

As an adoptive mom, has your child found his/her birthparents?

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Originally Posted By adoptee/adopter

I counsel both adoptees/adopters and birthmoms-so I find it ironic that you call yourself the voice of experience,but whatever.I think you are confusing your story with others.You had an neglectful birthmother that you found.Big difference.Bmoms that place at birth are not criminals,because yours was.I also know that I would never say something alike you did to the adoptee.You could have said it without damaging her feelings.Do you resent her because she is searching?What if your son needs to be with his bmom for his sanity?Why does that have to be a bad thing?If she was abusive-then I don't think you should have found her BUT for you to tell infant adoption people not to search is wrong-because you don't know what it feels like,I do.