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Originally Posted By Missy

My half-sister who is 16, just found out she's pregnant. My Father has asked if my husband & I would adopt her baby-she is due in Sept.and she lives in another state. My husband & I have no children(he has an adult daughter)I desperately want a child, but I am worried about the "family" situation--Anyone have any suggestions?

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Originally Posted By aparent 1217

that is a great thing you would be doing. just make sure to have a very serious discussion with everyone, including your parents and your sister, make sure they all know that you and your husband will be the mom and dad. that your sister is not going to be the mother anymore. make sure to have quite a few discussions with your husband about it befor you decide. good luck

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Originally Posted By Lisa

I will tell you it can be hard to adopt with in the family. It can put a hole in your family that is hard to feel but with alot of hard work it can work. I adopted my grand daughter and we have had to work hard to make sure my daughter her mom is still my daughter also.You will have to make it very clear to her that you will be the only mom she will have and your husband the only dad. That is usally the first issue that will come up. Set her down and make all this very clear to her right up front.Also plan to tell the child the truth when you and your husband feel that the child is ready but do not wait to they are to old or it can be a problem.Also check with an Atty as soon as possible to make sure about all legal matters that can come up in your state. All states are different. Then if you decide to do it all I can say is love the child as much as you can.

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Originally Posted By marty sue

i have been raising my niece since she was 2 yrs old , she is now 11. we are finally looking into adopting her. even tho she is mine in my heart. there have been several times that it has caused family problems for us. her birthmother would come to visit and the grandmother couldnt handle the situation. even tho we were ok with it. however as long as the birthmother is agreeable to your terms. noone else should have a say in it.... i wish you the best of luck.

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Originally Posted By marty sue

i have been raising my niece since she was 2 yrs old , she is now 11. we are finally looking into adopting her. even tho she is mine in my heart. there have been several times that it has caused family problems for us. her birthmother would come to visit and the grandmother couldnt handle the situation. even tho we were ok with it. however as long as the birthmother is agreeable to your terms. noone else should have a say in it.... i wish you the best of luck.