[Ninnifer]

Hello,
I just joined, and am so happy to see such an active group! I am 39, husband is 49, and just this week found out that our 3rd pregnancy is ending. I'm going to try not to bellyache too much -you just met me! But We are SOoooooo ready for parenthood. We have so much love to give and I think we'd be pretty good parents.
Domestic adoption appeals to us both, but in perfect honesty, I am worried about the bio parents....changing their minds? Trying to get in touch and move-in on our fam. It's selfish, but that's what is in my heart and mind. We are a "mixed" family - me from California and hubby from France with some north African heritage. We would love to take in another world-citizen, and would be thrilled to take the little lambchop(s) to visit their country of birth and participate in cultural traditions - we live for that stuff! I have always had a special place in my heart for India, it's culture and people, but I'm getting the feeling that Indian adoption is cumbersome and long. We aren't spring chickens. Does anyone have suggestions? I guess we have some pretty general questions about a lot of things, but if you feel that you have some guiding wisdom and experience, I'd love to hear from you.
In the mean time, I thank you for creating this space. For so many reasons.
Ninnifer in northern California

[Linny]

I"ll be sending a pm to you.......

Sincerely,

Linny

[Ninnifer]

Hi linny!
I guess I'm not savvy enough to even know where to look for your message.....help!
Jen

[Linny]

A pop-up should have come to you when you came back to this site. Check the box near the top left that says, "Private Messages" (That's what a *pm* is...) Click on that, and it will take you to your private messages. If that doesn't work, I'll try another pm to you.
Let me know...

Sincerely,

Linny

[LauraLiz]

top right, under Welome Ninnifer

[Nevada Jen]

You are entitled to bellyache. We all certainly know that building your family in any way is hard. Particularly when you are desperately waiting for a child to love. I think India and international adoption is very difficult right now. (India has always been incredibly difficult to adopt from and you are likely to be matched with an older toddler at the YOUNGEST) If your hubby is a french citizen that might open up some countries that are not available to americans as options. Eithiopia is probably the best international option available for a baby and there are many agencies there doing great things and really making a difference in the lives of children there.
Your fears about domestic adoption are normal but generally unfounded. Most people still have adoptions where there is no relationship after placements. And you won't believe it until you are a part of it but I think most adoptive parents would LOVE to have their child's birthparents in their lives at least at a distance. The sacrifice they make for themselves to give their children you is really overwhelming from an adoptive parent standpoint. Sometimes it helps to think of it in terms of how would you feel if the lady who sits next to you at work said, "here is my child, I want you to be her parents."
Anyway, if you are a black/white race couple, you would probably have a lot of domestic adoption options. Its definately worth looking into.