[karaboo]

We had a situation fall into our laps...we weren't even signed up with an agency or anything. Emom met us, loved us, I went to Drs appointments, the whole she-bang. It was such a huge miracle to us, and we told everyone on the planet.

And then she decided to parent.

My personality is to withdraw when I am hurting, but of course, people want to tell you how sorry they are and ask questions. I understand that, I truly do. But it just kills me everytime someone who hasn't heard the news yet asks about the baby.

So we are signed with an agency now, and I am very very cautious about who knows. When we match, we probably won't tell anyone. We'll just show up one day with a baby.

Best of luck to you...

[kittymom]

We had two (sort of three) failed matches this summer. We told a LOT of people about all of them, especially with the last one, which was so perfect, and we were just SO close when it fell through.

It was hard having to tell everyone when it didn't work out. The whole family was attached to the idea of this little boy and excited about him, and now they had to share in our disappointment. I felt guilty about that, like if we'd kept it to ourselves, they wouldn't have had to get involved, too.

Two weeks after the last match fell through, we found out I'm pregnant. I have been so scared because for the past year, every time something seems to be going well, suddenly the bottom drops out. It feels unfair that I'm missing out on the excitement of this thrilling time - I never thought I'd actually get pregnant - because of the past adoption failures.

But I have still told people because it helps me capture a little of that excitement. And I'm terrible at keeping secrets. And I figure if something goes wrong, and I'm too depressed to get out of bed for a month, they'll need to know why.

[jp4ga]

We had 2 failed adoptions it was hard when we had told everyone and then had to tell them that they fell through. When we got the call for our DD we did not tell anyone. She was a baby born, we got on a plane the next day to go and pick her up. Lucky for me it was summer so I was off work (no employer to notify) and my husband works from home, so he just worked from the hotel. We did not even tell our parents. TPR was 7 days after placement. It was then that we sent out the mass email and called family and close friends. They were SHOCKED.

Now I am expecting (9 weeks). I have told no one except the people on this board and my husband. I have had several miscarriages and was told I could only concieve with the use of fertility treatments. So we are keeping news of this new life underwraps until I begin my 2ed trimester.

So your feelings are normal.

[TAP]

NORMAL. NORMAL. NORMAL.

Our first match, my friends painted the room blue, we bought stuff, my dad cried at the news. We were so excited. As many of you know, had the baby for a week and had to give him back.

Anyway, our second match, we only told our immediate family (my work and staff couldn't figure out why I disappeared). I finally told my boss the day she was born (since I wasn't coming to work). But, I didn't send a note to extended family and friends until after TPR. They were shocked, but happy. It was hard not to tell, but I couldn't go through all the "we are so sorry(s)" again.

Good Luck.

P.S. Our new baby is our DD .. so needed to repaint the room .