[feelingreyt]

My daughter is 9 yrs old and in the 4th grade. She is a quiet girl who rarely stands up for herself. Today, however, she stood up tall and proud for her baby brother!
On the playground some girls were talking about how many brothers and sisters they each have. DD said she has 2 little brothers. A friend spoke up and said "Yeah, but one is not your REAL brother, H is adopted". DD said she told her that indeed H is her REAL brother and for her not to say that again. Apparently this went on for a little while. Then my dd calls on her cousin to back her up. DD said, A tell her that H is my real brother! So, of course A(my niece) told the little girl that H was, in fact, my dd's real brother.
My dd was upset when she told me about it. I could see how angry it made her. I just wonder if this is something that she and my boys will always have to deal with. Is this something I should talk to the teacher about?
I don't get offended very easily, but this really bothers me!
I told my dd that Nov is Adoption Awareness Month and perhaps she should write an essay about adoption to read to her class. I don't know if she will do that or not, she's pretty shy, but I'm going to encourage her to!

[mommytoEli]

it makes me sad when kids have to defend their families. i'm sorry this happend.......but i am proud that she stood up for her brother.

[belleinblue1978]

Greyt,

We went through this with a little boy across the street (whose mom was adopted and she didn't say a thing). Anyway, I'm 8 years older than my baby brother who is mom and dad's bio kid, and I grew up in a small town, so the nature of how our family was built is no secret. Anyway, the kid says to my brother one day that he isn't me and my middle brother's real brother. Baby brother comes home and repeats this. He's trying to be mean of course and us being kids..... we tell him well of course he isn't, he is an alien.

Needless to say, everyone deals with it and your kids' will have each other's backs. We did and still do, heaven help the person that mouths off about one of us to the other. Ask the twit in my class that called my middle brother an @ssh*le to me. I didn't say anything directly to her because I didn't want to get attacked at school by a pregnant chick, but I did let my brother who is her boss know

[feelingreyt]

MommytoEli,
I am very proud of her!


belle,
I seriously laughed out loud with the alien remark!


Seriously though, kids can be so cruel sometimes......

[Canadamom92]

It isn't just kids.

My middle dd had a teacher at school tell her that her older sister isn't really her sister, that she is her HALF sister. Middle dd was in kindergarten.

Her response? "Well that's dumb. How can you have half a sister?!"

I just reinforced with dd that she said the right thing, and that some people just won't understand.

[feelingreyt]

Loved you're DD's response!!!

[Fatcat]

Celebrating Adoption : Grandparent Gift Shop

although you'd still need to address this in talking to your child, how they are not related biologically, but love is what makes a family.