[mondk]

Dh wants to give this pg girl at work all our baby stuff from Joshie (she's having a boy, wasn't planned and makes minimum wage). So I've been washing and going through his baby clothes and baby items. Dh is getting ready to start college. I should take myself off our atty's situation list, but I enjoy reading the situations.

However, when I think of going through all the nighttime feedings and all again, I just feel already complete. Just need to vent to get it all out. I'm also a little sad; I always thought we might go it again to have a little girl, but I feel too old and want to enjoy our time as a family of 4; make sense?

I signed me and Joshie up for a Mommy and Me yoga class...it seems like it helps to stay busy and have things to look forward to.

Anyone in my shoes?

Blessings, Michelle

[Steph-Jason]

I hear you. I'm pretty sure we're done too but then sometimes I have a little pull about not having a large family. It's usually when I see a new baby or when I'm going through some of DD's infant things. But- I also realize now all of the things we'll be able to do as a family of 3 & the fun I think DD will have being the family princess. For me I think I might always have that little pull when I'm around a newborn. I know alot of women who do- they swear they're done having kids but then once someone has a newborn they go through it all over again. when we were TTC we always thought we'd have a large family so realizing that that dream has now changed for me was a big step too- KWIM? I dont think you're alone at all in this.

[Barksum]

We're done. Have been for a few years. BUT every once in awhile I get a little nostalgic and wonder.... We have a 'big' family, with 5 kids. Still, now that things are down to a dull roar with the youngest two kids being potty trained and sleeping through the night I fantasize that I could enjoy having another one. Reality is that we're done for many (many!) good and valid reasons, but we do still have one seat left in the car.... Seriously, we're now settling in for the few years' wait for grandbabies. I'm feeling a little old to start with a new one again.

And getting rid of the baby items doesn't mean you'll never buy more.

[mkviola]

Originally Posted by mondk

Dh wants to give this pg girl at work all our baby stuff from Joshie (she's having a boy, wasn't planned and makes minimum wage). So I've been washing and going through his baby clothes and baby items. Dh is getting ready to start college. I should take myself off our atty's situation list, but I enjoy reading the situations.

However, when I think of going through all the nighttime feedings and all again, I just feel already complete. Just need to vent to get it all out. I'm also a little sad; I always thought we might go it again to have a little girl, but I feel too old and want to enjoy our time as a family of 4; make sense?

I signed me and Joshie up for a Mommy and Me yoga class...it seems like it helps to stay busy and have things to look forward to.

Anyone in my shoes?

Blessings, Michelle

Oh Michelle, I do understand, although I am not yet in your shoes. We've been toying with the idea, depending on what happens in Nov. I think it would always come with wondering and I do not think you are alone.

[arkansas parent]

I think we are done too.(at least for a few years) I would love more kids but the 3 I have already take up a lot of my time. Tonight all three of them was crying. DD didn't feel good, DS was in trouble, and baby A wanted all of mommy's attention, I was about to go CRAZY. One more would have pushed me over the edge

[Cjmeck]

Yes, I'm in your shoes. We're done, 100% complete. But its hard to let this part of my life go, when it has just been everything to me for soooo long. Those darn baby clothes get me every single time!! I've given away all of my kids outgrow baby clothes to my niece and nephew. And for some reason, I feel really bitter about it. Crazy, crazy stuff. I'm done, I'm happy with that, I love my life. But the baby stage just whips by in a flash and then its gone forever. THAT IS SAD!

[oceanica]

This is what I said after #1 and #2 and just look where I am now with three little munchkins!! :-)

[Jensboys]

Originally Posted by oceanica

This is what I said after #1 and #2 and just look where I am now with three little munchkins!! :-)

Me too!!! We have had to replace our baby things so many times now that THIS TIME I just packed away a tupperware container of all the infant stuff "just in case". DH thinks that as soon as we say we are done more babies ARRIVE. And quite literally they do!!!

[JenC]

I'm 100% DONE. DH isn't so sure, but I'm pretty adamant. Of course, I have a 3 week old and a 2 yr old, so I'm also 100% TIRED!

[aclee]

Sometimes I'm ready again and want my little girl, sometimes I'm DONE...I think in the long run the infant period is a lot like delivery, and I'll forget this part after a while.

But there are days...

Today Tyler stole a girls cake at playgroup and ate it while she cried. I got her another piece, but she was not consoled at all, and didn't want it. She wanted to hit Tyler and for him to leave cause he was bad (this is what she was screaming at her mother, she was a lot older than Ty)...Ty wasn't particularly phased by her reaction...He took her other piece of cake and ate it while he watched her have a tantrum on the floor.

Today was one of those days...I wanted to crawl into a corner and die, but I could only do so much and everyone else was LAUGHING at him...I was feeding Matty...it was a mess.

I got in the car and thought...OMG! NO MORE!

[musemoon]

I struggle with this one too. I am a single mom and I LOVE MY GIRLS...I adore them!!!! My oldest is a diva extraordinaire...(read slightly special needs) and my baby is a little buddha (read very easy baby). I always wanted a bunch of kids, but since I didn't start til later in life and I have dreams for a career and goals, hopes and dreams for my kiddos (including, college, travel, fun fun fun!) I think I should be done. But saying good bye to all the clothes and the baby years and the new beginnings and the building of a big family (as I am the only one in our small family who will be having kids) is hard. Being the oldest of two girls in a single parent household, I always craved a third sister. I loved the sis I had but I wanted more.

My oldest tells me that she has a baby sister, but there will be "a 'nother one baby sister and a baby brother named little fella" Weirdly she pegged my perfect family three girls and a boy...but well....I think I'm done. Unless my oldest has some magic up her sleeve. (and my oldest is only three....when her sister starts walking, talking and taking her stuff, I will shocked if she will want anymore of them :-)

[sugarandspice697]

I used to think that DP and I were done having children after how much trouble it was to get Firefly but now, I think we could do it again at least one more time...

[Fran27]

We think we're done too. I'd love to have another one to be honest, dh not so much, but I really don't have the courage to go through the whole adoption process and the infant stage again.

[Stormster]

We are done. I was waivering BIG TIME and really angry at DH for being done and then over the last two weeks I've been soooo glad and I think it has everything to do with how high maintenance e is.

I'm 44 and totally exhausted and can't WAIT to get out of this phase to be honest. I would not enjoy going through it all again!

I do still mourn not starting a family younger and having a bigger family but this is how my life worked out and I do have a GREAT hubby so....

Honestly, I don't see how anyone could have E and another baby close in age and younger. It would be impossible! I've always given away our stuff so I probably knew we were done before I really made peace with it.

[crick]

Originally Posted by aclee

Sometimes I'm ready again and want my little girl, sometimes I'm DONE...I think in the long run the infant period is a lot like delivery, and I'll forget this part after a while.

But there are days...

Today Tyler stole a girls cake at playgroup and ate it while she cried. I got her another piece, but she was not consoled at all, and didn't want it. She wanted to hit Tyler and for him to leave cause he was bad (this is what she was screaming at her mother, she was a lot older than Ty)...Ty wasn't particularly phased by her reaction...He took her other piece of cake and ate it while he watched her have a tantrum on the floor.

Today was one of those days...I wanted to crawl into a corner and die, but I could only do so much and everyone else was LAUGHING at him...I was feeding Matty...it was a mess.

I got in the car and thought...OMG! NO MORE!

LMAO! I'm sorry, I am! But this is priceless and if anyone there got it on video, Ty's college education is set with his winnings from AFV!

I truly understand the mortification though when our kids do stuff like this and hopefully you'll be able to laugh at it soon.

Mondk - There was a time when I thought I would like to have another little girl. I knew we needed some time to pass though and before I knew it our kids were too old for me to consider a younger sibling. I know a lot of people do it, but for me & us, it just wouldn't have been a good idea. Luckily my brother has 3 little girls 4 and under and I get to spoil them rotten being Auntie.