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09-25-2009, 07:44 AM
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question about NJ law and adoption consultants
Hi there..i am in NJ and am aware that NJ residents can NOT work with adoption facilitators. I am considering using an adoption consultant. Is this legal?
much thanks! Melissa 
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09-25-2009, 08:41 AM
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Not really! Consultant is just a fancy name for facilitator and while you probably won't go to jail over it it's really not "kosher" in states where facilitators are illegal.
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“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver "If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie "Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
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09-25-2009, 10:48 AM
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hi stormster.thanks for your reply..that is kind of what I thought about it being a fancy word for facilitator.
I should contact an adoption attorney in NJ. Any recommendations out there for that?
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09-25-2009, 11:40 AM
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“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver "If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie "Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
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09-26-2009, 06:48 AM
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Melissa, my adoption attorney is NJ based. I'll send you a PM with her info...
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3 Years TTC w/fertility treatments 12.07-Completed homestudy 4.08-Moved! Homestudy update 7.08-Developed bio, started networking 8.08-Started classified advertising 10.08-Contacted by birthparents 11.08-Agreed to an adoption plan w/bparents 4.09 - Failed adoption 6.09 - Another homestudy update 7.09 - Back in the game..our baby will find us 10.09 - Matched with new eParents, baby due in Dec 09!
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09-26-2009, 03:10 PM
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thanks
thanks to all who pm'ed me with their attorney recommendations! I really appreciate it.
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09-27-2009, 07:23 AM
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I just have to interject....I don't think that the terms 'consultant' and 'facilitator' can used interchangeably. Well, they may be, but it is erroneous in my experience. We are working with both....the major difference is that the facilitator advertises and deals directly with bmoms. The consultant works with agencies and attorneys.
Facilitators are not allowed to be used in different states. However, as an example, facilitators are not allowed to work FROM Pennsylvania, where I am. But we can use them in other states where the adoption can be finalized there. We would have to enlist the help of an agency and attorney, or just an attorney, to finalize. As for consultants, I don't know if that's illegal anywhere....they're really just matchmakers with attorneys or agencies. We were recently matched using our consultant. Our match was with one of the agencies they work with (our consultant works with over 30 agencies and attorneys....we were often being sent situations to see if we wanted to be submitted). We then have to go through the process of becoming a client of the agency. The nice thing is that the consultant stays with us throughout the process working as our advocate. Hope that helps in regards to differentiating the two....good luck!
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Started ttc in 2000, 6 IUIs, 5 fresh IVFs and 1 FET 6/04 Stopped treatment 8/07 Decided to pursue domestic adoption 1/18/08 Signed with facilitator 3/5/08 Home study complete 6/29/09 Signed with consultant 8/31/09 Matched with emom! 
Last edited by leenie71 : 09-27-2009 at 07:25 AM.
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09-27-2009, 07:47 AM
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Our consultant was told by the state to stop way before we used her which we found out about when we submitted our expenses for finalization And we saw the order
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“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver "If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie "Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
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09-27-2009, 07:57 AM
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you got cut off, Stormster....did that affect your finalization?
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Started ttc in 2000, 6 IUIs, 5 fresh IVFs and 1 FET 6/04 Stopped treatment 8/07 Decided to pursue domestic adoption 1/18/08 Signed with facilitator 3/5/08 Home study complete 6/29/09 Signed with consultant 8/31/09 Matched with emom!
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09-27-2009, 08:09 AM
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Sorry no and she did not help us with finding our sons birthmothet but it was still annoying that we paid for a service she should not have been providing!
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“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” - Barbara Kingsolver "If you have love, you don't need to have anything else, and if you don't have it, it doesn't matter much what else you have." - Sir James M. Barrie "Nothing's gonna change my world." - John Lennon
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09-28-2009, 08:41 AM
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leenie..thank you for your input..I am going to pm you as well
 thanks again!
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