[MilliesMommy]

Well, it's been since last October since we received a situation call from our adoption agency. I'm having one of those days when I just get so frustrated that I want to give up. We're with a great adoption agency here in Illinois, but I wonder if it's not the one for us. And I only say this because we're not getting situation calls from them at all. I assume all adoption agencies work like ours -- you get a call whenever there's a potential situation so that you can say "yes" or "no" to the emom. Then if she actually picks you, you get "the call". Those are the best :-)

So we went on the list last August and received 3 situation calls in September/October. But nothing since then. Has anyone gone through this? How long did you want to get a single call from the agency?

[meghann]

You can see in my signature the sort of up-and-down of our wait. We got a few calls early on, and then nothing all the way through last summer. Then, right before we were matched with Julia's birth mother, we got something like five calls in a two-week span.

Last summer was pretty frustrating, for sure. Our grids were very open as far as race and medical/mental health history; I know that there were a number of people whose profiles were shown to Julia's birth mother who had been waiting several months & her situation was the first time they'd been called, because their grids were closed. (Julia's birth mother was shown an unusually large number of profiles, I think because the agency had so many people who were waiting who were only open to "healthy white infant" situations.)

I can tell you that I'd gotten so frustrated with the wait that about a week before we started getting all those calls last fall I was ready to throw in the towel. You know that saying about it always being darkest just before dawn? It absolutely applied in our case.