[Stormster]

i am friends with four of E's relatives on myspace: birth mother, half brother, half brother, maternal aunt.

Have been unfriended by half brother (on paternal side) who is 25 and the one we knew best! Also birth mother's sister who I thought we had a great relationship with!

The weird thing is the two don't even know each other. I'm disappointed and upset. Tried to reach out a second time but apparently if you've done one friend request it doesn't allow you to do two. I also sent an email to birth mother asking if everything was ok which was PROBABLY A HUGE MISTAKE.

Since E takes after his bio father big time, I was always really interested in his half brother on that side (only one). He was also so cool to us. I don't have any other way to contact him. Just stinks.

Someone tell me it doesn't matter and many things can change in the next several years????

[Whirled_Peas]

Originally Posted by Stormster

Someone tell me many things can change in the next several years????

Yes, many things can change. Our baby's birthmom wanted a closed relationship. Her email today said, "That sounds so cute. Maybe she'll be doing that the next time we visit."

Maybe it was a weird thing at facebook. What about contacting the administrators?

Oops, I'm being called by a certain young man...

[2Bulgarianbeauties]

I liked this person, but she was not someone close to me. I unfriended her because she posted 5 to 6 status updates every day. So, my homepage was full of her miscellaneous comments, and I just was not that interested. It seemed to interfere with the less frequent status updates from people that contained more meaningful information. If I had realized at the time I could have just hid her comments, I would have done that instead.

[Stormster]

I only update pics, don't even do status updates. And even the pics I only do every 2 months or so. I hide people all the time on FB btw.

[Jensboys]

Stormster -- is it possible (with the way Myspace is dropping off) that they just closed their myspace accounts. I know lots of people are doing this with the upsurge in Facebook and Twitter ... and it might look like they dropped you, but instead really just closed their accounts? I know that my sons bio brother did the same thing to me after our visit last year -- and I have no idea why. However, what can you do about? If they have your contact info, all you can do is stay available.

[sbaglio]

Storm, you have entered the weird world of Facebook politics! What does it mean when someone ignores your friend request? Or when someone unfriends you? Or friends you? Are they doing it to gain a ton of friends, or because they really want to be friends? What do you do with someone who friends you and doesn't send a message or say hi? What do you do when someone updates every 5 minutes - unfriend them?

There are SO many reasons why someone might unfriend you. I've unfriended people for requesting to friend me then not saying hi; for sending multiple updates in a day; for including me on countless "Join this group" requests; for times when I was feeling upset and went through my friend list unfriending people who never said anything to me; for raunchy talk on status updates...

I wouldn't get into the FB politics if I were you. Unless you were contacting these people regularly or now and then on FB through private messages, I would try not to figure out why you were unfriended. I usually move things to email once I'm serious about communicating with someone; FB is just for hanging out and reconnecting with people, for me anyways.

ETA I also had a good friend who closed her FB account, and before she told me, I thought she had unfriended me, and wasn't too pleased. If someone unfriends me, I don't really care unless it's someone close to me (which hasn't happened yet) - their loss.

[devildogwife]

I'm sorry. I would be upset too.

[Stormster]

I looked and the brother is still friends with E's birth mother however it looks like he changed his last name!?

[mkviola]

I get upset about things like that, too. As much as I love FB, that part still bothers me. I ended up sending a message to someone who unfriended me. He had a great reason (more privacy- only kept family and close friends, because he's a teacher). You never know, but hang in there and keep telling yourself it is nothing personal with you or DS.
BTW, a little OT, but not a fan of myspace. They won't let me close my account unless I give my school phone number to verify I'm a teacher. It could be anything with that site...

[jules17]

[quote=Stormster I hide people all the time on FB btw. [/quote]

Friend me????

[Fran27]

I don't know MySpace, only Facebook... I've unfriended people in the past because they never updated anyway or I wanted to keep only close friends on it. I would send him a message asking him why he did it, he might have a good reason?

I would be really upset too though.

[Gwen72]

I would be upset too. Hopefully there is a perfectly logical reason and not a personal one. I hope you find a way to reconnect with them.

[Stormster]

Thanks guys

[portlowski]

Storm...it is possible that they unfriended you because of things OTHER people were posting on their page. This is why I have not responded to my own step-mother's friend request! I just don't think she needs to see my good friend jokingly refer to me as "a cheap ho" (I've been faithfully married for 9 years). Also, my step-mom has very different political views than most of my friends. I just didn't want her to be subjected to all the left-wing rants that were being linked to my site...too uncomfortable when I go to her house and Fox news is on 24/7. So there can be lots of reasons that someone who really cares about what you think doesn't want to be your FB friend.

[jgriese1]

I was thinking the same thing as Portlowski. It might be more about them and not you specifically. They might not be comfortable with things their friends post or pictures. I have a few young family memebers that I have learned a little too much about aftering seeing things on their FB pages.