[Beth.]

16 & Pregnant season finale starts on MTV in 15 minutes. According to the previews, it's a young couple considering adoption.

[TxMom65]

The show isn't even over and I'm bawling for the young couple. I wish those two kids could have the home life that they want for their baby. Whether they place or not, I feel for them and all they have been through.

[reetoreet]

I am crying for them too! I think this show was a really well done look into the expectant parent's decision making and emotions leading up to placement.

[vernellinnj]

Maybe it's just me, but I didn't see the adoption worker in a favorable light. I don't know, I just think they should have shown a little more counseling of the couple. This really seemed like a permanent solution to a temporary situation. But, I respect their decision (as if they care if I do or don't). Just my opinion.

[loveajax]

My dh and I just watched this and were rooting for those kids. The agency worker...yuck! And the kids' parents...yuck! They were beautiful, loving kids who I think would have been great parents to their dd...of course, very triggering for me because I feel the same way about dd's birth parents. Of course, I was also rooting for juno to parent!! Dh and I agreed that it was very sad. Of course, if the tape get rolling after they decided to parent (with their own kookoo parents), it may have been sad as well. Arrgh!!! I thought it was very educational (and now I need a kkeenex and to hug my sleeping dd).

[sissyminsky]

I thought it was awful when the worker came in and said - um it is 5 hours after you gave birth, why aren't you letting the adoptive parents hold her - well, I guess I will try to entertain them for ...how much longer? Oh well ten more minutes...

However, it really did wonders for me as an adoptive parent to see this - I told my husband that I still want our baby but I am sooooo glad our agency did not act like that in our recent failed match - I would rather the mother decide on her own without that kind of pressure - I think if a worker from the agency is there it should be to support and counsel her about what she wants.

I thought those kids were strong and mature. I think that it really showed the birthparents wrestling with the decision in honest and true ways. I really appreciated it.

[SupaModel]

THIS IS SOOOO HARD!!!! Watching now and crying. Last thing I needed today

[mondk]

I was crying too when watching the bdad cry so much. It reminded me of when our TPR was signed and I had to be in there as a witness to the signatures M.C. was giving and she was crying so hard I thought she was going to have an asthma attack...I started crying and we cried hard together. It brought back so many memories....

Blessings, Michelle

[Prettyboicris]

My wife and I watched it. We really liked this episode out of all the episodes thus far. Out of all the teen fathers we like this kid, I think his name was Tyler and Weston the most. I think Tyler really stepped up and supported his girlfriend. It was about to make me cry when he said to bmom, " I think you are strong enough to see her and say goodbye." I think that they would have been good parents because the amount of love and committment they had for the child BUT I think their home situations were far less than ideal. I think if they had different parents or had somewhere else to live and raise the baby they would have kept her. The Adoption worker did seem a little pushy to me and I felt that she could have been more sensitive to the situation. I can understand however that standing in a waiting room for 6 hours and not knowing whether the bmom will change her mind or not can be really nerve racking. I think this episode was the most intense out of all of them. Luckily we DVR'd it and watched it a few minutes later so we could skip the commercials. My wife and I were on edge. This situation also made us think about more open adoption options. One thing we never considered was the thought of a Bmom who would want to send birthday gifts but still respect the Aparents and their raising of the child so this show also sparked conversation in my wife and I. I can honestly say that watching that makes waiting a little easier today. Tomorrow I might feel anxious again but for today I know tough decisions are being made I must be patient with the process.

[frogftsh]

Just an FYI, it's 12 noon eastern time, and if you haven't seen this episode yet, it's on now. This is the first time I'm getting the chance to watch it.

[Nevada Jen]

I have to think that they cut out lots of parts with the adoption agency that they figured the general public would not want to see or were overly private. Unlike others, I really felt sorry for the adoption worker and adoptive parents who just had no idea what was going on during those 5 hours. The adoption worker must have felt horrible poking her head in but she also had to support the adoptive parents. I do think it would have been better for the show if they had shown the adoption worker talking to the kids about their options and how they might have made it work. I really did not like the kids' mom and dad. They are telling them not to place but are not even being remotely supportive. Who the heck leaves their 16 year old kid in the hospital by themselves? I wanted to strangle that mom! And the hospital making them do the hand off off hospital grounds??? And trying to force her to see the baby??? THat totally pissed me off! Overall, a really great show and very realistic I thought.

[Prettyboicris]

I had issue with them trying to force her to see the baby after she repeatedly said no. They even left the baby in there with them which I know really made tyler the bdad start crying even harder. I understand the Off hospital grounds thing due to the girls age and her mother not agreeing to the adoption. Some hospitals have their own "interesting" policies (for lack of a better word).

[Nevada Jen]

To the best of my knowledge there is no state in the nation that requires parental consent to adoption and there is also no state where the parents of the child, even if they are minors are not the gaurdian of the child. It may be the hospital's policy but I severely doubt they are forced to have that policy because of what the law is. I bet their malpractice insurer requires it.

[thanksgivingmom]

Originally Posted by sissyminsky

I thought it was awful when the worker came in and said - um it is 5 hours after you gave birth, why aren't you letting the adoptive parents hold her - well, I guess I will try to entertain them for ...how much longer? Oh well ten more minutes...

Didn't watch it, couldn't watch it, and it was largely out of fear for something like this - which to be honest, would likely be far too triggering for me.

I understand if it was emotional for the family, but five hours after giving birth is a VERY short time for the woman that has just given birth. Still so many emotions, hormones, not to mention exhaustion (don't know if this birth was vaginal or c-section, and I've only experienced vaginal, so I can't speak to the other) - five hours doesn't seem like a long time at all.

[Saya]

Originally Posted by thanksgivingmom

Didn't watch it, couldn't watch it, and it was largely out of fear for something like this - which to be honest, would likely be far too triggering for me.

I understand if it was emotional for the family, but five hours after giving birth is a VERY short time for the woman that has just given birth. Still so many emotions, hormones, not to mention exhaustion (don't know if this birth was vaginal or c-section, and I've only experienced vaginal, so I can't speak to the other) - five hours doesn't seem like a long time at all.

This is why our agency recommends that the potential adoptive parents NOT be there for the birth and in fact NOT be at the hospital AT ALL even if there has been a long match. Five hours, even five days, might not be enough for a woman who has just given birth to process this big a decision. . .