[Whirled_Peas]

Originally Posted by nurse_reedle

Kids die in cribs too. Actually, I don't personally know a *single* baby that has died from co-sleeping, yet I personally know several that have died in their cribs/bassinets. You can co-sleep unsafely, but you can also co-cleep very, very safely. It is a personal decision, and not one that people should fear monger anyone into. There is a lot of safety information that is for co-sleeping as well...just depends on where you look.

Actually, if you want information on the safety of co-sleeping, you should read the editorials in the Journal of Pediatrics, THE journal by the American Academy of Pediatricians. The editorials after the AAP's statements on co-sleeping were pretty unnerving. The unethical way the statement on co-sleeping was released is shocking. Additionally, physicians from Alaska discussed the decrease that state has seen in SIDS since the increase of co-sleeping. They were not happy with the AAP's statement.

You can unsafely co-sleep, you can also get educated on safely co-sleeping. Not every family is appropriate for co-sleeping. I know one woman who does some weird sleepwalking stuff. She wisely keeps her baby out of her bed. It is my understanding that in China they don't even have a word for SIDS because they all co-sleep and they don't have kids die from SIDS. So, do research into what the people who actually study co-sleeping say. As I said before, google James McKenna. He is the expert on the subject.

I don't have time now to search out the links I mentioned above. Sorry.

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Originally Posted by Whirled_Peas

Actually, if you want information on the safety of co-sleeping, you should read the editorials in the Journal of Pediatrics, THE journal by the American Academy of Pediatricians. The editorials after the AAP's statements on co-sleeping were pretty unnerving. The unethical way the statement on co-sleeping was released is shocking. Additionally, physicians from Alaska discussed the decrease that state has seen in SIDS since the increase of co-sleeping. They were not happy with the AAP's statement.

You can unsafely co-sleep, you can also get educated on safely co-sleeping. Not every family is appropriate for co-sleeping. I know one woman who does some weird sleepwalking stuff. She wisely keeps her baby out of her bed. It is my understanding that in China they don't even have a word for SIDS because they all co-sleep and they don't have kids die from SIDS. So, do research into what the people who actually study co-sleeping say. As I said before, google James McKenna. He is the expert on the subject.

I don't have time now to search out the links I mentioned above. Sorry.

Okay, so this is getting off topic now...

So I will just leave it as that we can agree to disagree...for every "expert" there will be a hundred more "experts" to contradict what that original "expert" said, so I get that there are going to people who don't agree on the subject, that is fine. My main point was to let the OP know to research what was best for her and her child. These boards can get so judgmental on what is best, I just wanted to post my opinion (for what its worth) so she could have info on both sides...that's all.

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by Justinraysmommy

Ok so I'm 25 and I'm adopting from a very close friend of mine. His ex got pregnant and nethier of them are able to keep this little boy. Well the baby will be born in a few days and I have power of Attorney over the baby till my adoption goes through wich could take up to 3 months. So my question is will the baby bond with me right away being I didn't carry him? I am nervous about bringing him home from the hospital and him being fussy like does he know his mommy from being in the whom? Will he be fussy and how long will it take for him to bond with me? I know it will be hard being single mom but I really am happy about this all. I love this baby with all my heart and he's my life. I am blessed that God gave me this chance to be mom. So any advice is there anything I shouold be doing to get him to bond with me?

My son bonded with us, even though he had a very traumatic start to life. He knew who his mom and dad were. We were by his side 18 hours a day and only left to sleep. The baby will be able to bond with you, even though you didn't carry him. Yes, he might be fussy too, but you'll figure out how to soothe him. FWIW, I could not 'wear' my son because he had a shunt on his heart. Had I done that, I could have killed him. We bonded just fine without baby wearing. When he was conscious, he was either carried or pulled around in a little red wagon. He's done just fine.