[mkviola]

I don't know why I'm feeling this way, but I think the stress is really building. I feel like I've been strong through most of this. For anyone who was chosen by an e-mom and then had to wait, did you have moments like this? Very bad emotional eating day and my heart is pounding. I just feel nervous and jittery and scared.

E-mom was having contractions 2 days ago and had a regular appt. yesterday. She did mention that she would call after, but we didn't hear anything. Of course, with all of the other red flags, my mind is going crazy thinking. I did finally call the sw, but wasn't able to get hold of her.

I don't know. Just one of those days, I guess. Thanks for listening to me vent...

[filswife]

I have been the waiting mom! My dd was born two weeks past her due date as well! I was a complete maniac! I wish I could have saved the insomnia for AFTER she was born!
I have been blessed to have bio children, and been the waiting mom and now a foster mom. Each of them are very hard in very different ways. What you are doing right now, waiting for your child to be born, is SUPER difficult! FOr me it was the fact that there is not one thing I was in control of. I could do NOTHING! so.... I pulled out some difficult puzzles and sudoku and tried my best to keep my head distracted.
I will pray for you. waiting is the hardest part.

[mkviola]

Thank you, Filswife. It's so dreary today and my DD is at my mom's for the day (I had a class), so I'm sure that's not helping. After DD and DH get home, hopefully I will be feeling better. I think a big part of it is the unknown. You are right, not being in control is hard. Anyway, thank you for listening and for your advice.

[devildogwife]

Oh definitely. I remember one time in particular. We lived on a Marine Corps air station and it was the air show weekend. It should have been a lot of fun and a great distraction, but I was SO miserable. A couple things had been miscommunicated and I was sure that the match was going to fall through. However, we got a hold of my son's birth mom a few days later and everything was fine.

Hang in there. A lot of us go through this. It's no fun. Plus I can't even fathom the emotions an expectant mom would be dealing with.

[mkviola]

You are so right and I keep telling myself that this is a small, small fraction of the emotions e-mom is most likely experiencing.

It always helps to hear when things work out in the end. Thank you for responding!

[Magic_Hat]

I'm so sorry you are having a bad day. It must be so hard to wait. I didn't go through that either time. Hopefully you'll hear from the emom soon.

[portlowski]

When my DH and I were in "baby limbo" as he called it, I just wished that I KNEW what was going to happen.

It is hard to deal with the disappointment of a failed match, but you have no idea if she will be parenting so you can't start the letting go process. Not knowing is very stressful.

Our "baby limbo" after birth was 10 days. My son was at the agency nursery during that time. We were allowed to visit him (his birthparents signed consent for us to do so) but those visits were hard because I was afraid to get too attached to him.

Hug your family and take a deep breath and I'll be hoping for an answer that will come soon and that you and the emom can be at peace with.

[brooklyn_girl]

Waiting really stinks! I guess what put me a little bit at ease was to decide that if it was meant to be, it would happen. It got me to relax - a little. That and watching bad movies on cable :P

[Saya]

Ugh, the waiting sucks. When we adopted DD (from Guatemala), we found out about her when she was few weeks old, got to visit her when she was 3 months . . . and then had to wait 5 MORE MONTHS before everything was completed and we could go back and take her home. I spent most of those 5 months unable to sleep, with constant stomach and headaches, and I lost 15 pounds solely from stress (I've gained it all back and more so) . . . oh, and that was the beginning of my addiction to this message board! Take care of yourself, and I'm sending good vibes to you, the e-mom, and the whole family.

[mkviola]

Thank you all again so much! It helps to hear I'm not alone, although I know that. Your support means a lot to me.
I wish I could LOSE weight, instead of gain. I've put on about 10 pounds since all of this started, so I decided to go back to WW tonight. At least that will hopefully get my mind off this.