[Stormster]

For 15 months I was convinced he considered me part of the furniture. DS has never needed any help getting to sleep, eating (he used a fork at 10 months) he likes to wash himself and even tries to dress himself. He never said Momma until recently.

About two weeks ago he has really started to appreciate me and it's been heaven!

The problem? He's in his room calling my name for comfort....something I have dreamed about. But I know if i go in there it will not be helpful in getting him to sleep (he's not crying just wants me )

Ugh the grass IS always greener. I was always loving this kid but now that he's demonstrating that love back I don't even want to part with him at bedtime!

I can literally feel how much I love him in my chest right now. It's crazy. But it was soooooo one way for sooooo long. He's still not affectionate but in his own little way he is trying.

Why did he feel the need to be so independent for so long? So strange to me. Held his own bottle at 4 months.

I wonder if some funky attachment stuff was going on....

[Fran27]

That's great Storm

[portlowski]

Ah, life's paradox...you long to hear the word "mom" and then you wish they'd stop saying it ALL THE TIME.

I know there are differing opinions but you might consider popping in and giving hima little reinforcement when he calls mom..at least right now while it is new. It could help solidify your bond to let him know that he is being heard. I don't know if E is still in a crib, but with DS, I come in and give him a hug while he is standing in his crib and let him know I will be back when it is morning (or naptime is over).

I am so happy that E is showing his love for you...

[Stormster]

We did Port, we did exactly that. And we kind of hugged him but didn't take him out, he's still in crib btw. He went down after ten minutes and was much more calm.
Thanks for responding. It's just so weird. He'll be 2 in a few weeks btw, i know you guys Fran and Port know that but from the way I wrote OP it looks like he's 15 months.

I also sometimes think he's hyperactive and that it's hard to "feel the love" at fifty miles an hour! It might have been partly that before and now he's more verbal etc. more in control somehow. (Though that's relative!)

[arkansas parent]

I wish Baby A was a little more independent. Most of the day he is glued to me.

[startedover]

I literally am laughing out loud because I remember more than one thread you started about him not "depending on you" and how you wished he did. I would go back and find them if I had the time but I remember thinking, boy when it hits she is in for it. Nothing makes a mom smile like a child wanting her (I told you it would happen nan nana boo boo. lol). And this may sound like I'm a horrible mother but when my daughter gets an ear ache (and I know that is all) I love the fact that me and her just sit in the chair all day. I don't have to do anything but comfort her because thaT IS all she wants. I guess I'm a horrible wife too because I do alot of "honey would you get me a drink, honey will you get supper she doesn't want me to put her down, ect. " There I said it. I let a horrible secret I have burdened myself with out of the bag. I LIKE TO CUDDLE MY BABY! ESPECIALLY WHEN SHE HAS AN EAR ACHE... ENJOY this, it will go away in the teen years when you are wrong about everything. lol