[PersianMama]

We got a call from our SW today saying that an expectant mom liked our profile and wants to meet us! The description from the SW was almost too good to be true (situation, due date, health, etc.), so we'll see what happens!

What in the world do I say at our meeting? What do I ask or not ask? She wants us to bring our kids so that she can meet the potential siblings of her child, and she's going to bring her two children too. I am going to be so nervous!

[JenC]

AAAAA!!! That's great news for you! I have absolutley no advice as to what to say though. For your sake, I hope your kids are on their bestest behavior that day!

[maddie036]

Brooklyn_girl - Sorry you are having a bad week Hope it gets better. Throwing baby dust your way.

PersianMama - that is wonderful news!! Good luck at your meeting.

[PersianMama]

Originally Posted by JenC

AAAAA!!! That's great news for you! I have absolutley no advice as to what to say though. For your sake, I hope your kids are on their bestest behavior that day!

We haven't told the kids yet about the meeting. Our oldest will be nine next week and so wants a new baby brother or sister. I will have to remind her not to use the phrase "please give us your baby" at any time .

[Canadamom92]

I hope you don't mind if I join your club. Our most recent match fell through on Monday after three visits. Back to the drawing board!

[casuzascookie]

Hi my name is Dawn and I am married to a wonderful man named Vitor. We have a 12 year old bio son. We started this process with DHS 4 years ago and are still waiting! It's been very hard on all of us and I promised my husband we would stop all of this at the end of July!! But I refuse to give up hope!!!! I have 3 weeks and will work it with all might!

[PersianMama]

Our meeting went well . The kids had fun playing with her kids. DH and I felt awkward, but afterwards, the SW said we did great. Now all we can do is wait!

[DancinBear63]

JenC- Congrats!!! (I may have said that elsewhere, but it DEFINITELY belongs on this thead)

Welcome to all of the newer folks, too!

I've been in such a wonky mood lately, it's good to hear that people I 'know' are getting results! I finally asked the agency for specific numbers on domestic placements this year. They told me that they've had TWO placements , and one was the situation that we declined. I suppose that I wasn't surprised that their numbers were lower than they had been in the past, but I didn't expect that.

DH and I are still saving our $$$ to join with a large nationally known agency. The fees are more than 2x what we would have paid through the original agency. We love Agency #2- they've been great, and understand that it's going to be another 4-6 months before we're able to activate our profile with them. In the meantime, we did also interview a large facilitator service, but were very much turned off by them. As we like to say, "To each his own..."

Best of luck to everyone!!

[leenie71]

Hi everyone,
Just catching up on posts...

JenC, do you have a nursery ready? Great news about your recent match.

DancinBear, good luck with the agency search. We just signed with a consultant after 18 months with just our facilitator. So, now we have 2 working for us (I feel like we could use at least 5!!)

PersianMama, glad to hear the meeting went well...best of luck!

Dawn, I hope your wait ends very soon!

Canadamom, I'm so sorry about the match that fell through. Hope 'the one' comes soon for you!!

We signed with our consultant 2 weeks ago and this week we were presented with 2 situations. On Wed evening, we were asked if we wanted to submit our profile for a situation that didn't match our criteria very well, so we decided to pass on being considered. It's been a long wait already so we figure that we should stick to our guns and wait until we have a good feeling about it.

The next day, our consultant called me at work about a baby girl already born a few days earlier. I was told that whichever family said yes first, it was a go and could come to get the baby the next day. The birthmom wanted a closed adoption. The consultant needed to know within the next 15 minutes. My mind raced and I called dh at his work. We discussed it quickly and decided we had to pass because the cost was at the tip-top of our budget and there were some red flags. I'm hoping the family meant to have her is with her now. Some second-guessing went on in my head as this was as sure a thing as they get. The consultant said that while we probably won't ever feel 100% about a situation for whatever reason, we will know when we are ready and willing to go for it. I appreciated her saying that because I was feeling silly that we are turning anything down at this point.

So, that was my week...such a difference from the past 18 months before we signed with our consultant!

[JenC]

Ha ha ha ha! Have a nursery ready? Are you kidding me? I function best on last minute stress. The crib/infant stuff is shoved in the closet of the room. We don't have another dresser yet. The kids can share closet space, so that's not a problem. The pack and play is set up for the occasional kid I babysit who may need a nap. The room used to be our bedroom, and it needs new carpet and I'd like to repaint it, but well...we're a little over budget on this adoption, so it may have to wait.

(totally my fault for going over budget, I knew the fees, but figured we're never picked anyway, so what the heck)

[leenie71]

Originally Posted by JenC

Have a nursery ready? Are you kidding me? I function best on last minute stress.

LOL You sound like me.

[rd200]

This hasnt been very active in the last few months so i'm hoping that means that there arent alot of people out their still waiting along time. Unfortunetly, me and DH are still waiting. Since we have been waiting for 9 months i can now join the club!!!

Short intro since i'm not new here or anything.... We have a bio son whom is going to be 8 in a few days, diagnosed with secondary infertility, DH has bad morphology, i have "old" eggs, (only 26) so we tryed one round of IVF, that failed, i decided to try it one more time, couldnt get my fsh levels down far enough to make it worth trying so decided to junk that whole idea and go with adoption. In hind sight i wish we would've just NOT done the IVF and put our limited funds toward adoption instead of throwing it away on our IVF that failed miserably. Anyways... SO our homestudy went very fast, we love our social worker, we have been waiting since January for a match. I know it hasnt been that long but i am probably the least patient person you will ever meet so this waiting around and doing nothing isnt for me. I'm getting very anxious, upset, frustrated, and everything else inbetween.
Our agency is really slow right now and we arent open to a whole lot of stuff, so i think the combination of doing a semi-open relationship, the fact that i work full time, and we arent open to many drugs and minimal alcohol exposure i think is why we are waiting a while. We cant get picked if we are never shown, right?!? i just need to be patient and the right match will come along hopefully soon.

Its kinda interesting though because i'm going to be unemployed soon (november) which definetly isnt good, but if i dont have a job then at least i can be home with the baby if we ever get picked. Some days are better than others of course, but my DH doesnt want me to buy alot of things before we are matched so i cant even get a nursery ready yet. i have bought enough diapers however to last the next year or two!!!

Thanks for letting me in the club, i hope everyone gets a match very soon. Rach

[itsrikkig]

Originally Posted by rd200

This hasnt been very active in the last few months so i'm hoping that means that there arent alot of people out their still waiting along time. Unfortunetly, me and DH are still waiting. Since we have been waiting for 9 months i can now join the club!!!

Short intro since i'm not new here or anything.... We have a bio son whom is going to be 8 in a few days, diagnosed with secondary infertility, DH has bad morphology, i have "old" eggs, (only 26) so we tryed one round of IVF, that failed, i decided to try it one more time, couldnt get my fsh levels down far enough to make it worth trying so decided to junk that whole idea and go with adoption. In hind sight i wish we would've just NOT done the IVF and put our limited funds toward adoption instead of throwing it away on our IVF that failed miserably. Anyways... SO our homestudy went very fast, we love our social worker, we have been waiting since January for a match. I know it hasnt been that long but i am probably the least patient person you will ever meet so this waiting around and doing nothing isnt for me. I'm getting very anxious, upset, frustrated, and everything else inbetween.
Our agency is really slow right now and we arent open to a whole lot of stuff, so i think the combination of doing a semi-open relationship, the fact that i work full time, and we arent open to many drugs and minimal alcohol exposure i think is why we are waiting a while. We cant get picked if we are never shown, right?!? i just need to be patient and the right match will come along hopefully soon.

Its kinda interesting though because i'm going to be unemployed soon (november) which definetly isnt good, but if i dont have a job then at least i can be home with the baby if we ever get picked. Some days are better than others of course, but my DH doesnt want me to buy alot of things before we are matched so i cant even get a nursery ready yet. i have bought enough diapers however to last the next year or two!!!

Thanks for letting me in the club, i hope everyone gets a match very soon. Rach

just wanted to let you know we had started another waiting thread here is the link
Waiting to be matched....2009 Edition :)

rikki

[hope872007]

i am waiting baby will be here in Feb

[midnighttang]

I forgot that the Longsuffering Waiters Club was around, because when it was initiated I wasn't qualified. I was hoping never to be qualified, but here I am, almost 9 months into my wait. Aaargh! This wait is killing me. I'm surrounded by adorable babies and toddlers as well as 2 friends due any moment now. One friend is having her C-section tomorrow (send positive thoughts her way ) For the first time in almost a year, I started hoping to find myself pregnant, just so the wait would be over I even took a pregnancy test (negative) even though I was sure I wasn't. Really, I'm going crazy here Thank God I have a supportive husband who loves me despite my insanity.