[aallen25]

So, I try not to be oversensitive regarding adoption comments, but my bestfriend got me tonight.

She's 6 weeks pregnant, keep that in mind....only SIX weeks...and you would think she is 36 weeks. According to her she can already feel herself growing, is having major back pains and can't walk up a flight of stairs without stopping for a breather. Anything and everything is caused by or a result of her pregnancy. She's being absolutely ridiculous.

Anyway, being my bestfriend she's heard me talk before of the pain of infertility and the hardships that come with adoption. Adoption is not all that easy either. So tonight I get on facebook and her status says "friend will adopt if there is any chance of a second child. Not sure if I can go through is again". Six weeks pregnant, people!!

I guess it's not so much the adoption comment just more of the same woe is me, trying to get attention stuff. These next 8 months are going to be extremely trying on our friendship.

Okay, I'm done. Thanks for listening.

[Barksum]

LOL Well, just wait until the REAL pains of pregnancy sets in. Like hemorroids?

What is that they say, that friends are those people who know you really well, and like you anyway? Sounds like you get to develop Friend's Gestational Memory Block, that block in your memory which enables friends to stay friends after the baby arrives.

[Cjmeck]

Okay, I'll put a different spin on this. No, its not normal for someone to be that uncomfortable at 6 weeks. I felt the same way though with each of my 4 pregnancies that I miscarried... So, I wonder if something is wrong with her? Ectopic? I remember that shortly before 2 of my m/c's I had such severe back pain I could barely move. I hope for her sake that she's just trying to get attention or something. But my first thought when I read this was... I wonder if she's miscarrying. Hope not.

[aallen25]

Well, maybe I need to sit down and talk with her about exactly what she's feeling. And, not to sound mean, but I'm still a little skeptical only because it's in this girl's genes to exaggerate things and be a drama queen. I really hope this is just typical drama queen stuff. Thanks for the heads up, Cjmeck.

[GoddessDanu]

I'm sorry your friend is driving you crazy. Just remember that she's hormonal and not thinking right and maybe that'll help you along. My very pregnant sister has said insensitive things to me about her pregnancy and my mom just keeps telling me, "She's pregnant and stupid right now. She'll be better after the hormones have died down. Just don't pay attention to what she says."

[loveajax]

Alicia, I can never contribute to pg talk much, but I have been six weeks pg (before I m/c'ed) and the only thing I noticed was that my breasts were a little heavier. I think people that are naturally "drama queens" are going to make a drama out of their pregnancy, childbirth, etc. There's not much you can do except grin and bear it (and let the voice mail pick up..haha!).

[susie_book]

At six weeks, I was exhausted and barfing every day--I agree that it's likely that she's playing it up for attention, but if you want to give her the benefit of the doubt, there's room. Some women are just genuinely miserable all the way through; I was lucky that that didn't happen to me.

[mondk]

I need to vent too! I've got a friend who just had her 3rd miscarriage and she calls me up today to tell me about her fertility situation. She is seeing an OB/Gyn because she says they can't afford to see an RE. So this doc tells her to get some OPK's and keep trying. So I tried to tell her that if she is serious about having another and wants to get to the root of her problem with m/c, that she should probably see an RE. Well, she got mad at me and hung up.

ARGH! I could write a book on infertility and m/c plus I'm an RN and she calls me to get my take, then hangs up on me????????

I just don't know anymore; maybe my IF problems have made me bitter?

Sorry to hijack, Alicia.....I sure know how you feel and I didn't even find out I was pg with bio son until I was 9-10 weeks. I worked right up until he was born and had very little complaints, but I know how people like the attention etc. Hang in there and vent away!

Blessings, Michelle

[aallen25]

No problem, Mondk! Thanks!

I know I just need to suck it up and deal with it! It's only 9 months, right! I keep telling myself it could be worse, at least I'm not her husband!

[EZ2Luv]

I am so sorry your friend appears to be insensiative and self absorbed with this. I am in no way trying to minimize your pain, but seriously her hormones are really out of whack right now. My best friend was like this. We were Pg together and OMG everything was so unbareable for her. It got to a point where I had to distance myself for a while. So maybe you need to do this for a bit until things calm down a bit for her. Pg does put a body through all kinds of changes and depending on how much the woman can tolerate and her personality in general with dictate her behavior. You friend sounds so much like my friend and it does get annoying. My friend was a hypocondriac long before her Pg so once she caught sight of those two lines she was off to the races.

EZ

[proudmommyof 2]

Here's one way to respond. Play dumb about WHY she's talking about adoption, and comment on her post:

"OMG! I'm so excited that you are thinking about adopting a second child. There are so many children out there and they all deserve families! I'll help you throughout the process, b/c it's a tough one. Double good news!"

[devildogwife]

Originally Posted by GoddessDanu

I'm sorry your friend is driving you crazy. Just remember that she's hormonal and not thinking right and maybe that'll help you along. My very pregnant sister has said insensitive things to me about her pregnancy and my mom just keeps telling me, "She's pregnant and stupid right now. She'll be better after the hormones have died down. Just don't pay attention to what she says."

Excellent point. I was pregnant 2x (and miscarried 2x) and the hormones made me NUTS!!! Really, I felt like a crazy person. I remember calling my DH one day sobbing after watching a homeless man cross the street in front of me. It also sounds like she's being really over-dramatic and that's pretty annoying. And her facebook status? Ugh, annoying also.