[oceanica]

My hubby wanted 10 kids when we met, and I didn't.
Now we are old and we have two kids, and we are pretty much at our limit as to what we can do. We couldn't really handle another. And since we are old and decrepit (well not really though the sleepless nights combined with having to work did take a toll) we may not want to adopt any more later. Besides, the more you have the more your attention is spread out among them. AND with domestic adoptions all the waiting and worrying about will she or won't she... we don't really need it. It still doesn't stop us from wanting to get involved though when we hear of a situation!
So putting issues like age and cost aside, if you could adopt the perfect number of children, what would it be?
Why?

[tweetybirdus]

I have always just wanted 2 children. I don't want us to be outnumbered. I have 1 and so we'll be going for #2 in a few years as we've got some financial things that need our attention before that happens.

[jaenelle]

We're going to have room for 4 kids when we get our house remodeled, and we want a "full house"! We'd like to adopt a sibling group of 3 and be done with the adoption process. Honestly, it is just a big pain in the butt. Worth it, obviously, but that doesn't mean I want to do it over and over!

[ourdreamcametru]

I'm an only child and DH has one sister who is 6 years younger. Not that I had a bad life growing up, actually I was a princess and loved every minute of it but now that I'm older I hate the idea that when my Mom dies I have no siblings to lean on. DH and I said before we were married that 3 was perfect for us and we are there and very comfortable so we are done. God bless us with two bio boys and a beautiful adopted daughter and I truly feel complete.

[BlessedbySnuggs]

We have always dreamed of having 2 kiddos. Hopefully our family will be complete sometime soon!

I am not sure if there is really a reason why we wanted two kids; both DH and I always said 2, not sure why.

[kretzklan]

I love all my children - but 3 is a really tough number for us. Someone is ALWAYS left out of games and just plain ole' hanging out! Lots of drama - especially at the ages they are now! I think even numbers are the way to go!!! Being outnumbered (as someone mentioned above) can be a big issue also - it's impossible to get everyone where they need to be at the same time with only 2 parents!

[DannieAS]

I used to want to have 4 boys. Now I'd be happy with 2 children either male or female.

situations have changed since I was younger with the 4 children notion; I have made a decision to be a single parent and in doing that, have to be willing to know my strengths, weaknesses, and set apart reality and what would be responsible from wishful thinking.

[jalapeno]

Originally Posted by kretzklan

I love all my children - but 3 is a really tough number for us. Someone is ALWAYS left out of games and just plain ole' hanging out! Lots of drama - especially at the ages they are now! I think even numbers are the way to go!!! Being outnumbered (as someone mentioned above) can be a big issue also - it's impossible to get everyone where they need to be at the same time with only 2 parents!

I find there is a flip side for us with the games thing - meaning that not everybody has to play. We got our daughter a teeter totter for her birthday. She loves it. The boys think it's ok. But she only has to convince one of them to play at any given time. Will have to see how it all evolves as they get older!

My DH is really an avid golfer and three kids plus him makes a perfect foursome!

I agree about the being outnumbered. And it does seem as though a lot of "stuff" out there is designed for 2 kid families (hotel rooms, restaurant tables, family ticket packs for theme parks or museums).

DH and I were leaning towards three before we had kids. And I absolutely wanted at least two. I'm very happy with the number we have.

[lovemy2boys]

4 would have been my ideal...

I would have LOVED to have 3.

I am blessed with 2.

The reason why I wanted 4 is because I wanted alot of kids, but 5 seemed like too many - haha.

I say I would have loved 3 because my "baby" is about 3 months away from starting full day kindergarten and I am feeling very sad and very nostalgic...

Got 2 and it's great. We can afford to do things, our small house and is the perfect size, the boys are best friends...the list goes on.

But sometimes....

[Kat-L]

When I was young, I wanted a house full of kids. As a single mom, it's not practical. I think three is a good number for me. Maire-Kate was an only child for 6 years and our family just didn't feel complete. For the last year and a half, I've had three kids and it's a good number. When "Brandon" goes home, I'm going back on the list for a girl between the ages of 2 and 7. I don't want a tiny baby-I'm definately too old for that.

[SupaModel]

In my dreams I've always thought I would have 2 for sure and maybe a 3rd down the road. All boys too!! Now I have 1 and not sure if I'll have anymore

Maybe god will make a way for me

[crick]

When we adopted, we said 2. We have 4.

Given we have 2 more than planned, we are done done done! LOL!

HOWEVER...

I did like this side of adoption in regards to foster care adoption. Having the opportunity to say "let's have our "perfect number" of children and be done with the process was a big positive for us. Not that it didn't come with some cons too, having 4 children at once. But, I do remember once we finalized thinking "Huh...how many people can say that about their families? Want 2-3, have to wait a bit between pregnancies and here I am...done!"

Hope that makes sense in the spirit I intend it to be!

[bluebonnet_72]

We always said we wanted 3. We adoped a sibling group of 3. My youngest goes to kindergarten next year, and I really want at least one more. I think I'd consider a sibling group of 2, if they were both younger then our daughters, but that might be hard to do. I want at least 4 though.

[Fran27]

Ideally, 4. But we're probably stuck at 2, knowing that dh really doesn't want another one, we would probably have a hard time affording it, and I really don't like uneven numbers (we were 3 and there was always one of us left out).

[Amber76]

I would keep adopting children for the rest of my life if I could get DH on board! My plan is to adopt at least 2 more infants or toddlers (besides DS and my 2 nephews who live with me). Once my babies become teens (my nephews already are), then I'd like to consider fostering or fostering to adopt some kids in the 8-12 range. That's my goal, but I'm not sure DH will be open to that. I haven't even mentioned it since that's obviously a ways down the road!