[telli01]

Hi! I'm new to this forum and my DH and I are excited about starting the adoption process. We've been through and IVF that resulted in a miscarriage and a FET which was negative. We have a meeting with an agency at the end of June to discuss things.

A question for you all though! Of course we will ask them when we go, just trying to get a head start on some info. My DH was born with a cogenital heart defect which led to a pacemaker. He went into cardiac arrest 6 years ago and now has a pacemaker/defibrillator. He is able to work, exercise, take trips etc. Most people don't even know about his problems. Do you think this is going to hinder us in with adoption? I guess I should mention we're in NC and we're looking at domestic infant adoption.

Thanks for your help!

[sheababy]

It depends on what his doctor says. In CO for our homestudy we just had to have our doctor fill out a form that we were fit enough to parent and did not have any life threatening issues. It doesn't sound to me like it would be a problem.

[minibus]

Generally, if the information from the doctor says that the issue is under control and your DH has a normal life expectancy, you'll be ok to pass a homestudy. It totally depends on the agency and the worker, though. However, if you are rejected from one, try another.

[maryabr]

I think it depends on your state and agency. Ours just needed a letter from our MD on letterhead that said we were healthy enough to parent a child. It was really simple.

[brooklyn_girl]

I agree with what everyone else said. FYI in case you're curious, in our homestudy our doctors had to sign a letter that said we "have a normal life expectancy and have no communicable diseases". I found that if you write the letter and simply ask your dr. to put on his/her letterhead and sign, it's easier and you don't risk the language you need there getting watered down. Good luck

[snaps]

i agree as well. it depends on what the doctor says about his condition. if his condition is stable and doctor says he is able to parent and/or that his life expectancy is normal then your homestudy should be approved. I have heard of people with a past medical history of cancer adopting.