[BlessedbySnuggs]

Really just kind of curious...if you don't mind sharing.

Also, was your age a concern for your children's birth parents, " too old" or "too young"?

When we started the process the first time around hubby and I were somewhat young (26 and 27). This second time around we will be 28 and 29 years old. I just always assumed that our child's birth mom would be younger than us, ended up that our DD's birth mom is 6 years older than me and DD's birth father is 15 years older than me. She said she loved that we were "young". I also know we were presented to other couples (before we were matched with DD's birth mom) who thought we were "too young". Interesting....

Now, that we are getting ready to start the process again, all the same fears I had the first time around are creeping back into my head....LOL

So anyway, really just curious....are you older or younger than your child's birth/first parents? Did your age play a significant factor in your children's birth parents choosing you?

[aallen25]

My experience was very similar to yours...although DD's birth mom is 4 years younger than us. DH and I were both 25 when DD was born (Oct 07 just like your little girl). Her birth mom definitely liked that we were younger, but I don't think she had a specific preference regarding age.
We're hoping to start the process again this year, as well, and I still feel that our age is a benefit. When we first met the adoption attorney we used for DD's adoption she commented our our age being a positive thing. She felt it would help us match earlier than others because there weren't a lot of twenty-somethings out there wanting to adopt.

[mommamarci]

Cameron's birth parents did not pick us. It was an agency pick. But, bmom is older than me, but only by less than a year. Bdad is about 10 years older.

With Spencer, bmom is about 10 years older than us. We don't know anything about bdad. Also have no contact, so we don't know if age was a factor in choosing us.

We are also considered young: I was 24, dh 25 with Cameron. I was 26, dh 27 with Spencer.

[BlessedbySnuggs]

Originally Posted by aallen25

My experience was very similar to yours...although DD's birth mom is 4 years younger than us. DH and I were both 25 when DD was born (Oct 07 just like your little girl). Her birth mom definitely liked that we were younger, but I don't think she had a specific preference regarding age.
We're hoping to start the process again this year, as well, and I still feel that our age is a benefit. When we first met the adoption attorney we used for DD's adoption she commented our our age being a positive thing. She felt it would help us match earlier than others because there weren't a lot of twenty-somethings out there wanting to adopt.

How exciting Alicia! Maybe our next kiddos will be close in age as well!

Yeah, I hope our age isn't a "negative" I guess only time will tell!

[tweetybirdus]

When we first met dd's bparents, we assumed they were younger than us, but it turned out that bmom was just a few months younger than me, and bdad was just a 2 years younger than dh. Dh is 6 years older than I am.

I don't think age on either side had much to do with their decision. They liked our album, which included pictures of us on our honeymoon, being sick, but having a good time anyway.

[yehudit]

This is the biggest source of surprise to those nosey people that ask about thing 2's bmom -- she's 5 years older than me. And though I don't consider myself "old," at 36 I'm no spring chicken. Unfortunately we have no information about her bdad.

Good luck!

[maviskat]

Our daughters' birth parents were younger than hubby and I. They were 19 and 21 when our first DD was born and we were 36 and 37. So I guess age was not really an issue for them when choosing us.

[minibus]

We were also an agency pick, both times. The first birthmother was older than us, I believe. Our children's birthmother is about 10 years younger than me (DH is 2 years older than me) and their birthfather is older than both of us by a little bit.

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by BlessedbySnuggs

Really just kind of curious...if you don't mind sharing.

Also, was your age a concern for your children's birth parents, " too old" or "too young"?

When we started the process the first time around hubby and I were somewhat young (26 and 27). This second time around we will be 28 and 29 years old. I just always assumed that our child's birth mom would be younger than us, ended up that our DD's birth mom is 6 years older than me and DD's birth father is 15 years older than me. She said she loved that we were "young". I also know we were presented to other couples (before we were matched with DD's birth mom) who thought we were "too young". Interesting....

Now, that we are getting ready to start the process again, all the same fears I had the first time around are creeping back into my head....LOL

So anyway, really just curious....are you older or younger than your child's birth/first parents? Did your age play a significant factor in your children's birth parents choosing you?

In both our situations, we are older than our kids' other parents. But we're way older than you too!!!


DD was placed with us six weeks before my 36th birthday and DH turned 50 the year she was born. DD's first mom was 29, so it still made her older than the average mother who chooses to place her child for adoption (at least in our area... average age is 22). One factor that was significant to her was that we were older than her. She hoped we would have more life experience. She was also parenting two other children and said she just felt wierd thinking of her daughter in a family with parents younger than her.

DS's first parents were in their early 30's (by then I was 38 and DH was 52). I don't know if our ages were a factor as much as some other issues important to them, including the fact they wanted their child to have a sibling (we were already parenting) and that they wanted us to live a significant distance from where they were.

Age like almost everything else is one of those things you can't control. Those considering adoption for their children have all sorts of reasons to place. Although it's hard not to pick your life apart and wonder if you'll be picked (I know we did the first time around!) it really is useless. In fact, in the end, the three big issues that we were told by the agency would most likely make our wait longer (our ages, location and career choices) were, at least for DD's other mom, the three main factors in choosing us as parents for her daughter. So hang in there... you never know...

[devildogwife]

We were both younger. Our son's birth mom didn't seem to mind at all. When Cameron was born, we were both 23 and she was 29. I don't know his birth dad's age but think he is in his early 30's.

[shellers]

in our situation bmom is 9 years younger than me, but she thought we were the same age- luckily when she asked my age it wasn't a dealbreaker. btw- I am 34.
I think bmoms are looking for something specific but that isn't going to be age for everyone.

[Stormster]

Bdad is a couple of years older than I am and same age as DH and birth mother is about 6 years younger than me. People are always surprised at that!

[tajmu311]

I was 27 and DH was 34 when DS was born. His birthmother was 42 - unfortunately we don't have any information about DS's birthfather, but were told he was also in his "early forties." Interestingly enough, both birthparents were grandparents when DS was born!

[Asha0314]

i am quite a bit older and the birthmother knew my age but I have no idea if this was a factor in choosing me we have a totally closed adoption

[snaps]

We are way older. Bmom was 20 when our daughter was born and bdad was 24. I was 36 when she was born and my husband was 40. It was sort of funny for us since my husband is only a few years younger than bmom's dad. Just recently we adopted another child of theirs. I was about to turn 40 and my husband had just turned 44. I guess age was not an issue for them. We are worlds apart in some ways, but we are fairly active hip people I like to think. Maybe that helped - ha!