[mom2justynsarah]

It's been a long time since I have posted anything. So I want to give a big hug, say "hello" and share a story with all adoptive moms

My daughter Sarah was adopted from birth. She is now four. Originally, her adoption was open. But that has gradually changed into semi-open. My husband and I have been telling her about her "special adoption story" from birth. She usually LOVES her story (how we flew on a big airplane to California and how happy we were when we first saw her, etc).

But the other day, she looked kinda troubled and began asking me how she got into Dee's tummy. She then got a look on her face with her beautiful blue eyes as wide as saucers and asked "Did she swallow me mommy??!"

I didn't know whether I should laugh or cry. But since she looked perplexed, it brought tears into my eyes. Of course I told her that Dee did not swallow her. I said that mommy had a boo boo in her tummy and g-d asked Dee to carry her in her belly. We were all brought together because that's how g-d wanted our family to be.

Then she started asking me if she could what Dee looked like, and if she could visit the hospital where she was born. I told her that Dee also has blue eyes, and one day when she is a big girl, we will take a trip back to California. She seemed to be ok with that.

Who else can relate and what kinds of questions have you been asked. How have you answered them?

Thanks
Julie

[PersianMama]

I think those are age-appropriate questions that have very little to do with adoption. My son was three when I got pregnant with his little sister. At one point, he asked me if I'd eaten a baby to get it into my tummy All of the kids point out the hospital where they were born, every single time we pass it, which is often. They want to know about the day they were born, etc. I think you answered your daughter just fine. Keep being honest. One day, she may have serious questions about adoption itself, and not just her own birth. You'll already have a great foundation for talking about it all.

[rtsmom]

When my first son was barely two and I was pregnant with his sister and we talked to him about the baby in my tummy, he asked me, "Why did you eat a baby, Mommy?"

Still makes me smile, 20+ years later. :-)