[akcskye]

I just want to make sure I'm not being rude etiquitte wise.

I never get gifts, I like to give them, but not receive them.

However, I am having a yearning for one of those Mother's rings like they sell in Wally World where you can get a stone for each of your child's birth month. Some say mom, some don't.

I can't wear jewelry unless it's sterling silver or 10k gold (hubby got lucky, for sure haha)...but, it's something I want, but didn't know if it would be rude to ask my family for or to tell them I wanted or not.

Thanks!

[midnighttang]

It's your family, you can tell them. If it were great aunt Irma or you were going to send out a mass email to your entire address book that would be something, but if you don't tell your close family they will never know. You could even hint at it, "You know, I've been thinking about getting one of those mother's rings. Lets go look at the jewelry store display, so I can figure out which one I like best." My husband would be ticked off if I wanted something and didn't tell him. He spends the entire year trying to drag a Christmas list out of me.

[belleinblue1978]

Nope, not rude at all. I love my Mother's ring, and wear it proudly, it has myself and Kiddo's birthstones in it.

Mom asked my dad for a stud finder this year, ha! Spose she's looking to replace him with a carpenter?

[JustCourtney]

Heck, I told my husband last night what he got me for mother's day! I ordered custom necklaces for both the new grandmas this year with hand stamped charms with Nate's name and birthdate, and either mine or my husband's initial (both C so it was easy!), and while I was at it - I ordered one for me, too!

He will be relieved to get you something you actually want, and not have to guess! Go for it!

[Magic_Hat]

I think it's okay to ask for what you want. Or you can make a big show of looking at them online or in the store and hope they take the hint.

Belle, that's hilarious about the stud finder.

[jp4ga]

I flat out tell my husband what he can get me for my b-day and other holidays. He has NEVER taken a hint. I can even print the flyer and hang on the fridge or door and he still does not get it. So finally after being married 15 years I just started telling him what I wanted and the past 3 years have been the best as far as gifts go. He has managed to still throw a few suprises at me.

[DianeS]

As long as you're polite about the request, I think it's OK. It wouldn't be fair to demand or insist. But just to ask - sure, that's one of the advantages of close family!

But you still need to be nice and polite even if nobody gets it for you. If they get something else instead, you need to still appreciate it. If they get you nothing because it sounds like they normally don't get you anything, then that needs to be OK too. If either of those happen, just go get the ring for yourself the day after!

[tweetybirdus]

I usually give hubby a list of things I've been wanting and let him pick what to get me from that list. It's usually the few things I wanted and didn't get at Christmas or another event. Jewelry is pretty much out for me unless it's titanium. That's the only metal used in jewelry I'm not allergic to. I have a titanium wedding band that replaced the old platinum one I that I developed an allergy to. Hopefully I won't develop one to titanium as well.

[RhondaJ]

I need some opinions here...our ddaughter's birthmom is going to be with us on Mother's day! Should I get her a present or not? She does have an 18 year old that she parents and then she put a son up for adoption in 2007, our daughter in 2008, and now she is due in Oct. 09 in which we will be adopting this one as well! I feel as thou I should get her something but I don't know how she will feel about it...any suggestions or inputs would be greatly appreciated!

[KLL08]

We have invited our dd's birthmom to celebrate with us this year too. We are still waiting for her to let us know.
We have invited her and her other children she is parenting to lunch after church where DD is being dedicated that morning. And I found her a card yesterday. (It took me 30 minutes or more to find one at Hallmark--I found it under the "someone special" section.) But I've heard others giving birthmoms yellow roses and they really appreciated that as well.

[Betelnut]

I think that Mother's Day is a day to celebrate YOUR mother--not anyone elses. That is, your husband celebrates his mother, you celebrate your mother, etc. When you have young children, the most you can expect for Mother's Day is something your partner or day care provider has helped them make.

In my opinion, if you want the ring, buy it for yourself.

This would be a good question for the folks at Etiquette Hell.

[akcskye]

I do completely agree, there.

That's how we always do it in my house (each one celebrates their own mother), so that's probably what I'll do...just buy the ring myself and not ask for it...I would hate asking anyway. haha

Typically, on a holiday where I am supposed to get gifts...I have them buy a gift that I then donate to a women's shelter or some other charitable cause, because really, I have all I could ever want.

So, it's not a deadbeat family that never buys for me...it's the fact I have all I could want now.

Thanks for all your input!

Originally Posted by Betelnut

I think that Mother's Day is a day to celebrate YOUR mother--not anyone elses. That is, your husband celebrates his mother, you celebrate your mother, etc. When you have young children, the most you can expect for Mother's Day is something your partner or day care provider has helped them make.

In my opinion, if you want the ring, buy it for yourself.

This would be a good question for the folks at Etiquette Hell.