[Kirsty814]

I haven't posted in a long time since adopting our second child who is about to turn 2! How did that happen?? Anyway, I'm now 40 and hubby is 41. We act young, think young but feel our age. Yet husband really wants to adopt again. Who has adopted when over 40? I am deeply thankful for the two beautiful boys we have, but I don't want to look back in five-ten years and think we should have gone for it...

[startedover]

My bio kids werer 17 and 12 when we out of the blue adopted a newborn. We did not know the biomom and were not actively presueing adoption but by fate just ended up doing it. I turned 39 4 days after her birth and my husband was 43. Most people did think we were crazy, but more so because we were gotting close to "having the kids out of our hair". I guess those people just think differently than us because we were so thankful to get to start over. Best decision my family of 4 made, was to become a family of 5. Good luck

[Kirsty814]

That's a great story. That kind of stuff makes me want to do it over again. Like you said, we're so thankful to be a family, age is somewhat a non-issue...

[tomandcate]

I adopted my first at 40 and my second at 42...I am now 44 (DH is 41) and if I was two years younger I would adopt again in a heartbeat. Since I don't want to be over 60 when our youngest graduates high school, we are stopping with our two beautiful boys...but I say go for it!

Cate

[HeidiK]

I was picked on my 40th birthday to be the Mom of my oldest, and at 43 adopted my now two year old. Best thing I every did, wish I had started 10 years ago - I would have had more

[Bamamom07]

44 & 46 here, and adopting a sibling group. Already have other children, including two who are grown. This sibling group has infant sister who may come into care at some point. We have decided after intense thought and prayer that we will take the sister if asked, even though we are in our 40's and were not interested in having more babies. But she isn't just a baby who could need a home, she's a baby who has siblings who desperately want that relationship with her. And I'm a little bit different mother now than I was 20 years ago. Although I can't chase a toddler as far as I used to be able to, I can still chase them, and I think years of experience parenting might count for something. And I think all my kids will be more glad if we get to raise her than disturbed that their momma is older than most of their classmates mommas. In the right situations, us old mommas are the best possible choice for a child needing a home. I'm just feeling really blessed that in this part of my life I get the joy of being mom to these kids. I never dreamed of buying the RV at 50 and retiring and traveling the country anyway. The children bring me joy, I'm happy, they're happy, so being in our 40's is not a deterrant. It is entertaining sometimes with the age range; "no that's my oldest son, his big brother holding him, not daddy".

[Gs_Mom]

I was 42 and 44. DH was 43 and 45. I wish we had done so earlier. But, it took us 5 years to get from "yeah lets have a baby" to bringing our oldest home. Who knew it was gonna take more than a night of margaritas and throwing caution to the wind!

I love love love my kids. And, yes, they help keep us young. But man, sometimes I have a hard time keeping up. I'm guessing it's because of my age. I am just not as enegetic as I was in my 30's. I would kind of like a third. But, there is no way I would take on 3 at this age.

It does su*^ for my DH sometimes because people ask him if he is the boys grandfather, thanks to his grey hair. I feel bad for him because it hurts a little.

On the other hand, I think I am a much better parent then I would have been if we had started earlier.

Instead of fretting that we are too old, I have come to think that there are advantages to having them young and advantages to having them later.

[momtutu]

Hi,
I am 45 and just brought home a beautiful baby girl. She is now 3 months old. I take things a little slower than I did when I was younger, but I am still active and loving life as a new mom. My daughter's first mom was only 21, but she says that she did not care about our age when choosing us. She choose us because our family looked like what she would have wanted as a child.
Lisa

[mommy3]

We adopted twice when I was over 40 (well over) and can't imagine my life without my two youngest children. I'm a much more focused and patient parent than I would have been when I was younger. My own mom was a bit of a challenge the first time we adopted--much less the second--but it wasn't her choice and I just learned to ignore anyone who wasn't supportive, to be honest. Both of our children's birthmoms are much younger than me and yet were immediately sure "it was us" when they met us. My dd's birthmom was initially imagining a young couple and then swung 180 degrees when she read our profile and said she knew we were the ones. The right birthparents will choose to meet you, believe me. In fact, the majority of families whom I know who've adopted are over 40. Love that part about adoption! susan

[joskids]

I've (we've) adopted 4 children when I was over 40. My life is full and I'm able now to be a SAHM which means I don't have a career out of the home AND a career in the home to cope with. I'm tired, but I don't believe that I'm any more tired than a 30 year old would be with 4 children under the age of 11. Age is just a number. I don't feel nearly my age and most people say I don't look my age. Maybe that's because my children keep me young in many ways. Don't let the age factor get in the way. If this is something you want to do, do it. If you live to be 85, you still have 45 years left!!!!!

[blessedbybug]

Originally Posted by Kirsty814

I haven't posted in a long time since adopting our second child who is about to turn 2! How did that happen?? Anyway, I'm now 40 and hubby is 41. We act young, think young but feel our age. Yet husband really wants to adopt again. Who has adopted when over 40? I am deeply thankful for the two beautiful boys we have, but I don't want to look back in five-ten years and think we should have gone for it...

I'm 41 and just recently made the decision not to pursue another adoption. It has less to do with my age (or our ages... DH is 54) than with the complexity of the process and the financial requirements. We just couldn't swing it. I'm still sad about it at times even though I know we made a good decision. I say if you and your DH are in agreement, go for it! And blessings!

[Whirled_Peas]

I gave birth at 43 and adopted at 46. After we got our baby, I thought, "What was I thinking? We're in this for 18 years." Oh well. I think anyone at any age can have those thoughts. I have them more now than I did after the birth of my son, but I think it's because two kids is just so much more work than 1.

I have no regrets having adopted at 46. I don't think I have any less energy than I would have had at a younger age. I hope I am a much better mother now than I would have been in my 20s.

I think the big consideration is health. Both my husband and I are very healthy. At 64 we will be much younger than many other people are age. If your health isn't excellent, that is something to consider. Of course, I think having kids keeps you young.

[journeytolily]

I was 41 when we adopted our daughter from Guatemala, 43 when we adopted our son from Korea, and was 47 when our newborn baby girl was placed with us in November. I have no regrets. Yes, sometimes I wonder what the heck I was thinking, starting a family in my 40's, but it's all I ever wanted, and it just didn't work out for me earlier in my life.

I actually belong to a playgroup in our city, where most of the moms are in their 20's and 30's. At first when I joined, I thought "oh my gosh, some of these women could be my daughters!" But amazingly enough, I fit right in! No one seems to have an issue with my age, so why should I?? And like someone else said, almost all the adoptive parents I know (and I know MANY) are in their 40's, so we really do fit right in!

As long as you really want to add another child to your family, and you are active and in good health, I say go for it! Haven't you heard? The old 45 is the new 35!

Oh, and we are actually considering one more adoption, before I turn 50. The one thing holding us back? Money (not age).

[RhondaJ]

I turned 39 a month after our dd was born and dh turned 47 3 months after she was born. birthmom is pregnant again and wants us to adopt this one as well! Of course, we are so, I will be 40 a couple of weeks after this one is born but I don't have an issue about my age or DH! We have all the energy and everything else it takes to raise our little ones...and boy am I enjoying it. We also have 20 and 18 year old biodaughters. There is a big difference from when I raised them and with our new little one...I am so savoring every minute she is little! Go for it and enjoy every minute!!!!

[mumofone]

I was 32 when we adopted our first, 39 when we adopted our second, 41 when we adopted our third, and at 43, we are adopting our 4th.