[mondk]

Oh my PC is slow tonight....and now I forgot what I was going to say....

Oh, by the time we will start adoption #2 my dh will be 39 and me 37....I hope we get matched quickly!

Blessings, Michelle

[thanksgivingmom]

Belle's post reminded me - I was 24 (?) when Cupcake was born (I could do the math, but I never quite remember) and while I didn't choose Dee, I personally would have chosen someone older than I was - probably at least in their 30's, so I was TOTALLY cool with her being placed with a Mom in her 40's. Also, my Dad was 43 when I was born and he's been an awesome Dad - and I NEVER thought he was "too old."

And Gwen - PM me about this ninja/visiting you and my football team deal!!!! I didn't realize your hometown was my favorite hometown that I'm not from!!!!

[browneyes0707]

My DD's parents were in their 30s when they adopted DD. Her mom was in her late 30's I know, so she must have been in her 40's when she adopted DD's younger sibs. In fact, I know that her mom was in her mid 40's with the last and her dad was probably pushing 40.

Never dawned on me as an issue. In fact, at 17, anything over 25 would have seemed ancient to me Ah, youth is bliss!

[loveajax]

Thanks, Brown, I know the feeling....40 seemed ancient to me at 20 (in fact, it still feels ancient to me!).

I was talking to someone the other day about how even though I am forty, I still "think" pretty much the same as I did at 20. Too bad my body thinks it's 60!

[zinnia63]

Hey loveajax,

My son is 2 and has been home from Guat. for 1 year and I am trying to decide if I should leave our family as is or add another munchkin.

What is an agency only state?
I am having a really hard time understanding the ins and outs of domestic adoption and like you, never thought that my age 45 , and hubbys at 38, was a potential 'no go' for an agency. I just assumed it was the Birth parents choice...

I am in Massachusetts.

I feel like I need a book such as 'domestic adoption for dummies'. I need it simplified.

Thanks,
Zinnia

[maryabr]

My husband is a "young" 53 and I'm 35. Different agencies had different requirements here in FL. I was really worried birth moms would be turned off by his age or our age difference. We found a wonderful agency without restrictions and a birth mother picked us only a little over a month later. Believe it or not - she told the agency that it was because my husband reminded her of her own father growing up! You never know what will make a birth mother choose you. Another story they told us was of an adoptive mom who thought no one would pick her because she was overweight. A particular birth mom eliminated several couples and chose her, saying she wants someone who looks more like her - heavier. There is a match for everyone I think.

[nickandwendy]

Our agency has minimum age requirements but I'm not aware of maximums. One thing I thought was interesting about our agency is that they won't work with you if you have more than one child already. I guess it's their business so they can do what they want.

[Bunnygirl]

The agencies I looked at in NYC all had age limits for PAP's doing domestic adoption also -- MUCH lower age limits than for IA. It really kind of surprised me, especially since we didn't care about ethnicity & I keep hearing about how hard it supposedly is to find adoptive families for AA babies!