[mommieof2cuties]

The more I reread the papers and talk to other DCF workers not in Jacksonville, the more we have to wonder where the (other 4 children's case worker was) She had four other children who I am sure this was not the first time they were left alone and not fed in a car etc. The blame again need to be placed on the people that get paid and the laws that were and were not set up to protect. When I was working for the state, I had to go out to every call and write a long report etc, many of my co-workers would lie and say things were fine. Just like in education, people who work these type of jobs need to really care about child abuse prevention and not about the pay check, days off, medical etc. It makes me so said that yet another baby had to die for no reason, what makes even sadder is she herself the pbmom took the time to seek an adoption plan and than changed her mind for whatever reason. Just in the orlando case I believe had the grandparents step in or supported the adoption plan or adopted the child themseleves we wouldn't have wasted all this time looking for a child who died at the hands of her mother in a a very sick way. My question to everyone is how can we change the laws to prevent this. I am in no way saying a couple adopting is better parent than a birthparent, I just want to change the laws, I have seen in my own line of work before I got out way too many children abused and way to many died and that was just from me that is not including the others in my department! So sad...I sure hope that the pther four children will be given a clean start in life and will get parent/parents who love them, education etc and never have to spend a night in a care without food again. The System, the state failed this baby and family not the couple seeking to adopted. Please grieve, go to grief councling (that helped me when I was working in the field) it is free just google it, you usually make a donation when you leave! Again I am so sorry...my thoughts and prayers to you and the four children left behind.

[gigigeorge]

I wanted to post yesterday but I couldnt find the words, this story has haunted me all night long. I am horrified by the things that one person will do to another, and when its an adult and a helpless infant... it hurts my soul...

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[jules17]

I can't even begin to express my condolences. How horribly sad and tragic.

I hope you are able to grieve this loss and find peace during this sad time.

[nee18]

So, so sorry. It is too horrific for words. Please know this is not, in any way, your fault.

[cetalley]

Oceanica, I am truly saddened, not by the article, for I cannot bring myself to read this kind of tragedy, so I will take it from all the previous posters this is indeed a tragedy. I believe Mommyof2cuties stated it best...This is where the system fails...not only fails but is broken. I also know that this is happening every minute of every hour. There are children being left alone 2-3 yrs old some left to tend to the younger...younger than 3...can you imagine. There HAD to be signs from previous visits, I will never understand these agencies, then when something this tragic happens and they are questioned...there is "NO COMMENT", because it is under investigation...BULLS**T, It then is swept under the carpet and never followed up on.... from media especially. We as a society, tend to treat children as disposable goods....it happened ,we must now try to do better and go on. AS IF! Again , Oceanica, I am so sorry that this tragedy has hit so so close to your heart...... my PRAYERS are with the SIBLINGS,your family,BUT MOST ESPECIALLY , their parents, for GOD gave them a precious gift,and it is in this that they are the ones whom need GODS guidence..and our prayers...C.J.

[Saya]

I'm so, so sorry. It's hard to even find the words. What an awful, awful thing. Let's all hug our babies tight today.

[cetalley]

Let's ALL pray, for "OUR" babies, toddlers, and young children, each night, for one night is not enough for some. There are children, maybe around the corner, other side of town, down town apts., slum houses, that have very small children being left unattended, eating toothpaste, dried macaroni noodles, ANYTHING they can climb on a chair to find....WHY? Because their Parental Guides(SUPPOSED MOMS & DADS) are out hooking, scoring blow, and partying without any regards to "OUR" children...So , I ask we PRAY EACH NIGHT for these gifts from HEAVEN, for they deserve what we all wish for "OUR" children...LOVE, warm arms, a little food, and an occasional hug, and most certainly parents to LOVE them with ALL that they are! Sorry for my rant...this is why I could not read this article...even not reading them causes me so much hurt and anger, I will be upset for days over this...just imagining what happened to this child, and knowing it is going on as we speak...C.J.

[committedsoul]

You are in my prayers Oceanica...

[ourdreamcametru]

I don't even know what to say I'm so sickened right now. .God bless this sweet child and the others involved. Your family as well as the baby's family are in my prayers.

[JustCourtney]

as with many of the previous posters, this has stuck in my mind since first reading your post yesterday, and it has taken me some time to wrap my head around it

I think that the hardest part to come to grips with as as an adoptive parent, is that through out our journey we console ourselves with the faith that whatever happens - it was "meant to be," and that when an adoption plan falls apart it was because the birthparent loved their child and they were with "who they were supposed to be with". In this situation these two truths that we all tell ourselves and each other over and over ring hollow. It did not happen for a reason, and this child did not end up where he was supposed to.

You and your family are in my thoughts as you grieve this loss anew.

[Linny]

Well put, Coartney. VERY well put.

Sincerely,

Linny

[KarenInCa]

He hit the baby with closed fists? He needs to be put away forever.
It angers me that this woman has four children. And that she was selfish enough to entrust them with this jerk.
But, hopefully the other three children will be placed in the care of loving people.
I'm so sorry for your loss Oceanica.

[TxMom65]

I can't even find the words....

[mommamarci]

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot imagine what you are feeling.

[makarios79]

Wow.. I am so sorry to hear about that poor little baby.

This happened in my city...This news said that the family lives on the same side of town I live on....so sad....

What a tragedy....